Dr. Michael Gervais

And when you shine light on it, you have some optionality.

And I would never say stop caring.

I say stop worrying.

And I would never suggest that being free from the opinions of others is the right path.

But loving other people and holding your own standard for the values and the skills that you are working on expressing, there's a different math, if you will, amongst people that are

I think the most game-changing, shifting people on the planet.

And those are the ones that I highlighted in the book and in the research.

And we called it the first rule of mastery.

And it is literally stop worrying about what they think of you and do it a little bit differently.

I don't think it's a bad goal.

It's just, you're putting yourself, you know, the standing ovation or winning in some way.

It's like, they're great.

I wanted to win everything that I did when I was in fourth grade.

I just don't need to think that way anymore.

Yeah.

And because when I'm thinking about things that are, and my goal is something that's out of my control, now I'm out of leverage.

And so, listen, I want to win still, but I'm placing my inputs on things that I can completely master.

So I'm not interested in controlling the controllables.

I heard you say that earlier.

I'm interested in fundamentally mastering the things that are in my control.