Dr. Robert Glover
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1,225 appearances
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2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Sep 2025
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Trying to be nice, going along to get along, never being a moment's problem, avoiding conflict, especially being needless and wantless or trying to make sure everybody else's needs get met and then maybe ours will get met.
Those are the nice guy pattern.
So nice guy syndrome is just one of many what's called neuroses, neurotic ways of dealing with our discomfort of life, our anxiety and our shame.
So, you know, even the asshole jerk is trying to do that.
The perfectionist is trying to do that.
The kind person, the overachiever.
Everybody is trying to manage some interstate of discomfort or disease using tools, techniques we learned or we developed when we were three months old, three years old.
And then we get to be adults and we're still using them, thinking they should work.
And that's my definition of neurosis, as we're all neurotic in some way.
We're all using...
Life tools that we developed when we were three.
They don't work well when we're 30 or 60.
And so that's really what life is about, is learning through therapy, through coaching, through experience, through lots of different avenues, how to shed those old neurotic roadmaps and develop healthier ones.
I'm sure it's what you do in teaching people to be authentic.
Because most of us thought, oh, I'll hide these things about me because that leads to me getting hurt.
Well, then as we hide things about us, we also...
wall ourselves off from being loved and treated well and people being able to give to us.
No, they're not.
No, and you can be authentic and be very assertive and some people might take offense at that.
Well, in the way I use it in No More Mr. Nice Guy, it really is talking about in authenticity, right?
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