Dr. Robert Glover
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1,225 appearances
2 recordings
2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Sep 2025
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And so many of these men have come in my home, and men come into our home for these workshops, and my wife sees them, and they see these men have great respect for her man.
And guys tell me that I've changed my wife's world.
Not only does she wear a little lemon and fly first class...
But I've changed it because she didn't trust men.
Growing up in macho culture, every man she's ever known has been a serial cheater.
Because of the good men I brought around, and she's seen my commitment to be a good man and help men.
Not be a nice guy, but be a good man.
Right.
That's changed her world completely where she's become more trusting and more open and more receptive.
And that's happened because I've been in groups of men where I got real, where I told the truth, where I was struggling, where I was on a slippery slope noticing somebody over there that, no, that didn't work.
They keep me on path.
DrGlover.com.
Thank you so much for joining me today. Every time I hear somebody read the bio that I've sent them, I think, I need to shorten that. I need to cut it down to just, Dr. Glover lives in Mexico. Just that. No more than that.
Okay, so yeah, we'll get to kind of cover two topics here, the whole nice guy dynamic and dating. And, you know, they often overlap, not always. But yeah, I'm a recovering nice guy. You know, if you'd met me 30 years ago, I would have told you I'm a nice guy. I'm one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet. I would have thought that was a good thing.
I couldn't understand why everybody didn't have that philosophy. You know, be kind, be generous, be easygoing, and, you know, avoidant of conflict and pleasing of other people. And for me, my story began in my second marriage when my wife just flat out told me, she says, you need help. Everybody thinks you're such a nice guy, but you're not. You treat me badly. You're passive aggressive.
You'll blow up. You embarrass me in public. You know, if you don't go get help, I'm going to leave you. I thought, wait a minute. You're the one who's angry all the time, never wants to have sex anymore, is moody, you know. And I'm the one that has to go get help? Okay, I went.
And luckily, I quickly landed in some really good places and started to really understand why my roadmap, my paradigm that I'd had since childhood, I'm thinking if I just do everything right, make everybody happy, avoid all conflict, you know, hide all my mistakes, then I'll be liked and loved to get my needs met. And I started finding out why that didn't work.
And I started learning about how to be more honest, more transparent, how to ask for what I want, how to have boundaries, how to say no. And as I started working on my issues in therapy and then later a men's group, I was a therapist at the time. And I started noticing a lot of the men coming to me were saying a lot of the same things I said. Really, just two categories of guys.
The first one were in relationship. And since I was, that's who I'm most related to. But they'd come with their wives or girlfriends, and they'd say the same thing as me. I'm a nice guy. I treat her better than her ex. I'm raising her kids. I do everything for her. I try to make her happy. It's never enough. When's it going to be my turn? And I thought, man, they're just like me.
The second kind of guy was a single guy. And they'd come in. They say, you know, I'm a nice guy. All the women I know tell me that. I have lots of female friends, except none of them want to date me or get naked with me. I know that all too well. Yeah. They all say, someday you're going to make some lucky woman so happy. But how come they don't want to be my girlfriend? You are such a great catch.
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