Dr. Robert Glover
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1,225 appearances
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2 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Sep 2025
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Not for me, but for somebody. Somebody else. Yeah. you know, these guys, I thought, okay, I'm not the only one. So I started almost 30 years ago. My first no more, Mr. Nice guy, men's group. Uh, we just started working on, on these nice guy issues, that paradigm that says, if I'm just a good guy, everybody will like me and love me. And women will want to get naked with me. And, um,
And I just started writing, I don't know what to call them, chapters, lessons, blogs. I'd write every Wednesday and give these guys what I was discovering about what I thought the origins of nice guy syndrome was, how it manifested, what to do different. And I just kept writing. And the guys, and often their wives and girlfriends, said, Robert, you need to write a book. You need to go on Oprah.
This could be a bestseller. Lots of people need this book.
and so i kept writing over a period of six or seven years finally finished took about three years to get it published a lot of publishing companies said robert we like your book but our marketing department says men won't buy a self-help book um you know that book now makes uh annual six-figure royalty checks so apparently men do buy self-help books um and so
I've been working with nice guys for about 30 years. And then when that second marriage that I was in came to an end after about 14 years of marriage, and I was out in the dating world in my late 40s for the first time, really, I've been married twice for a total of 25 years. You know, I got married the first time two days after I graduated from college.
So, you know, I'd never just been, you know, like a single guy out there knowing how to meet women, how to date, how to have lots of experiences. So my first two wives were my first two sexual partners. And, you know, I got out there in the dating world. I thought, OK, well, where do I start? You know, I knew two things.
After being married to 25 years to two women, neither of whom I should have gone on more than three dates with. But that's how bad a picker and how bad of an ender I was. I got to become a better picker. I got to become a better ender. And so being a better picker means I got to learn how to date. And then I also have to learn how to be a better ender because...
I come to realize that being a good ender covers a multitude of sins of bad picks because dating is actually a series of bad picks. You know, when guys complain, you know, I got all I've got is these one and dones. You know, they I go, that's normal. That's dating. That's how it's supposed to work. You should go on one date and go now no more. That's enough. You know, let's try another one.
So, you know, I was in my late 40s. Typically, my nice guy seduction of high school and college was I'd never just walk up to a woman and talk to her and ask her out. I'd maybe sit next to her in class, try to answer as many questions as I could to show off how smart I was. Maybe get to know her a little bit, volunteer to do something for her, just be different than all the other guys.
Can I carry your books? Can I help you move? Can I wash your car? You know, anything. I'd never say, can I see you naked? Will you want to go out with me? Then maybe in college, I'd wait until Friday afternoon, walk up to the woman on campus that I've been wanting to ask out and tap her on the shoulder and say, hey, I don't guess you'd want to go out with me tonight, would you?
It's amazing how many women were washing their hair that night when I wanted to take them out. So, I had to learn to do better. So I had a lot of clients started giving me books and CDs and DVDs. And, you know, I read the game and started listening to podcasts. And I said, I'm just going to get out and be a scientist. I'm going to go out and just...
Start interacting socially with people in general, but just start interacting with women and just see what works. Instead of approaching dating as how can I get a girlfriend or how can I get laid? I started approaching dating from a point of view of how does this work? How can I be the most effective at this? How can I be that better picker and that better ender?
And I quickly got good enough that I was getting a lot of dates, having a lot of sex. And my client started saying, Robert, teach us, what are you doing? I go, I'm not a dating guru. I don't know anything about dating. So I'm naturally inquisitive. I'm naturally a teacher. So I just started teaching the guys what I was doing. And that just kept growing.
It turned into a class, turned into a 16 lesson course that I taught online for several years. It turned into the book, Dating Essentials for Men more recently. dating essentials for men faq frequently asked questions i was just in new york about two weeks ago recording that so get on audio soon it's already out in ebook and in print on amazon so um
So I really don't even still consider myself a dating guru. I'm more of, I think, a relationship. I can say I'm a relationship expert. And back where I got, I've been married three times now. I've been married to my third wife five and a half years. And for a while when I was single, I'd say I'm a marriage therapist who's been divorced twice and a dating guru that doesn't have a girlfriend.
And people still keep lining up to pay me money to tell them how to do stuff. But I'm very practical and I really get real with guys and just get down to what doesn't work and what does. And most of what most guys do when it comes to women doesn't work. And just because we don't know better, you know, no one's taught us.
We learned everything we learned about women from listening to women complain about other men, beginning with their mothers or watching porn or unfortunately too much from, you know, the pickup and red pill, you know, gurus that say, do this, do that. And, you know, basically it's a war, us against the women. They're out to get us, so we got to get them first.
And, you know, so I'm very practical and very respectful, and I just believe in doing what works. And a lot of guys like the way I approach it because it's a breath of fresh air from spinning plates and, you know, running corny pickup lines. Who lies most, men or women, you know?
The women have all heard that line, you know, without peacocking and all the other stuff that, you know, guys do this to get a woman. Or do this to get digits, basically. Most pickups, mostly about getting phone numbers. It's not really about getting much more than that.
okay well it it it's even bigger than just women but you know we're talking mainly about dating so we'll hone in on that you know the one dynamic well the dynamic of the nice guy syndrome when i wrote no more mr nice guy i really focused in on the on the concept of shame that
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