Dr. Sarah Ashton
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309 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Dec 2020
last heard Oct 2021
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So I think that, you know, maybe there'd be more fetishes which are normalized like fake fetishes.
For some people.
really being able to genuinely acknowledge and integrate this into their perception of themselves and and their their kind of broader public identity can be liberating, you know, just as it can be liberating to kind of reveal any other parts of our identity or our person, you know.
But a lot of people choose not to do this because there is this stigma and shame attached to it.
And so I think it really comes down to you asking yourself, what is it that I'm hoping to achieve with this?
And how am I expecting people to respond?
You know, because sometimes if we want to accept something within ourselves, we externalize this to the world around us and we want other people to accept this, you know.
want the experience of oh I tell my parents, you know, that that I'm into bondage and they say, That's wonderful, darling.
And and then I feel truly whole, you know, and and so I think that
It's really important to kind of be aware of what your internal motivations are and be realistic about what you think will be the response, what you think will be the outcome, you know, because if you're going to get a negative response, it's important that you're you're prepared for that, that you're, that you're being realistic about that.
And you might say, well, look, even if I do, you know, it matters to me and it matters that I'm being aligned with myself and I'm being genuine and that's the most important thing.
And then
Great.
But make sure that you're just carefully
You know, that you're looking after your own safety and you're looking after your own emotional safety by considering all the possible responses and outcomes.
Essentially this goes back to again, back to one of our core principles, which is that another person who's involved in the kink or fetish, they have to be able to consent.
And when you objectify someone, you see them as a being an object, as in not a person.
You're not considering their feelings, you're not considering
their their preferences, their desires.
And so if this is the way that you're relating to or you're interacting with another person, then you're actually not considering their consent and all the factors which are relevant to their consent.
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