Dr. Tara Narula

it's like kills you on the inside.

And so, and you feel stressed, but when you say, okay, I thought I was here for this reason, but now I'm here for this reason, it's like a light that turns on inside.

And so it's just a reframing and reshaping of what you, again, the marble and the angel, it's a reframing and reshaping of who you thought you were, what your life would be, and recognition that like, no, life is change.

It is constantly changing.

Because you're resisting what's actually happened.

You're resisting the change.

You're fighting against it.

So, you know, we use the analogy in the book of be the river, not the rock, right?

You have to flow with life to change.

get the most out of life, right?

That's that malleability, that flexibility is really critical.

One of the exercises that one of the psychologists I interviewed told me about, which again, I loved because it was very visual, was the identity pie.

He said he has his patients draw a circle and cut into the circle pieces of a pie.

I'm a mother, I'm a writer, you know, I'm a dog owner, I'm an athlete, you know, I'm a baker.

And a small slice of the pie is their medical diagnosis.

And when you look at that and you see, that's right.

I am not my diagnosis.

I am so much bigger than that.

I am so much more than that.

And again, it lets you see my life is so much more full.