Dr. Wendy Walsh

Well, we know how to quantify it.

Sometimes there are pheromones that we literally smell each other to tell if the person has a disparate, a different immune system as ours.

Back in our anthropological past, when we met a potential mate... Can we go back?

Yeah.

Yes.

But if you... Dating apps, problem there.

Okay.

That's the visual piece.

So we also have visual triggers.

We know certainly that men are more visually wired than women are.

Women have to be more choosy, but we also have these triggers from our past.

Like I used to say, ah, you know, he's so hot and weird thing is he has kind of a voice like my dad, or he has a certain kind of walk that kind of reminds me of my dad.

I was quite self-aware.

that I was pulling pieces of my father, who a loving great dad, was in the Navy and gone most of the time.

So my internal, now let's get into psychology, my internal working model for love was one mixed with longing.

If I wasn't longing, it wasn't love.

I didn't understand it.

That is so heartbreaking.

Love is not about finding happiness.

It's actually about finding the familiar.