Elisabeth McKay

Got to be careful there.

If you have been following the podcast for a long time, we have a tool that we use in Break Method called Eli.

It's a very specific way of asking questions of yourself to help expose the error.

I put together a little bit of questions that you can start to think about when you are potentially activated.

I will also pull these out into a PDF.

It'll be in the show notes.

So these are questions that when you're emotionally activated, you want to be asking yourself these questions to hopefully try to see past the distortion and anchor more into objective reality.

Question one, am I interpreting another person's blessing as evidence of my lack?

Have I allowed comparison to distort my personal identity, right?

If I see them as this, is that making me now see myself in a more distorted light?

Example, going back to Sarai, Sarai is stunningly beautiful.

Period, full stop.

Nobody would ever look at her and be like, she's not stunningly beautiful.

When she saw beauty in the people around her, her actual words were, I'm an ugly monster.

So is it possible that comparing yourself to somebody else is now making yourself be seen in a negative light?

Think about how real body dysmorphia is.

I have been in a bad mood before and actually thought that I looked like 20 pounds heavier than I actually looked.

And I saw a picture.

I'm like, oh, weird.

I didn't look like that at all.