Esther Perel

It's a job interview.

It's not a beginning of a story.

I mean, you know, relationships are stories.

A first date is the first page of a story.

And it will either be a short story or a novel.

I wish I could give you a blanket answer, but it really depends on you.

You know, relationships thrive in complementarity.

I am a person who is very solid, says one.

I structure my life.

I'm reliable.

But sometimes I wish I was a little bit more flowy.

I wish I was more spontaneous.

I wish I didn't overthink things.

And I welcome someone in my life that actually is more fluid, is more spontaneous, is less rigid like that, and vice versa.

That's a complementarity that's very common.

I can give you basic sets of human traits.

Yes, find someone who is decent.

Number one, number one, decency.

Find someone who is kind, who enjoys giving, who likes to think about others and isn't just constantly making sure that they have the bigger piece on their plate.

Find someone who, for some of us, it's someone who can...