Esther Perel

I don't feel valued.

You know what is the most beautiful power?

One of them.

There's so many.

But I have often said to people in sessions, I'm trying to think about an episode on the podcast that people could go listen to that kind of instantly speaks to that, where I say the person who apologizes first is often the person who has the most power.

Do you understand?

Roll that again because we feel the weakest, right?

Yes, exactly.

And especially those for whom this feels weakening to admit, to acknowledge, to take responsibility, to say I made a mistake or I was wrong or I went too far.

Why do they have the most power?

Because if I say that to you, it is more likely that you will say, A, thank you.

B, I appreciate this.

Three, you feel seen.

four you realize that we're both in this together yeah and um and five it's not so bad i can get over it because my admission is all you needed i don't need to you know stretch myself on the floor it's not i shame myself and make my is i'm just simply saying to you

It's this, it's that gesture with my head.

I know, I see, I own it, I take my responsibility.

And then usually what do you do?

You say, well, I wasn't at my best either.

Right, then they'll meet you there.

You'll meet me there.