Esther Perel

That's by definition.

I mean, this is the era where more people have written biographies than ever before.

Every person has a biography to write.

So a biography tells my story in the context of many relationships with others who didn't ask for the story to be told.

Every biography is a betrayal, a small one, but it's a betrayal.

You're like, oh, girl, get after it.

But you need to know that that's what we do.

And look, I've had more than one, in this instance, men in hetero relationships tell me, you know, if I knew...

It's about how much my partner, my girlfriend, my wife, whatever, my girlfriend tells her girlfriends about us, betrayal would be redefined.

I think that there is often a sense among women, girls, that it's not a betrayal because I'm talking to my best friend.

Whereas for many people, many men who are much less likely to share that much about their girlfriends to their male friends, if they were to discover all what she is able to put out there,

Betrayal would be redefined.

And I think that there is something to think about that.

Now, when you talk to your girlfriends, the question is this, are you ever actually saying what you have done as well?

Or are you only talking about what he or she or they did to you?

and that's where the girlfriends can come in and say look everything starts with the name of the other person alex did this and alex said that and alex didn't and you know what alex and what have alex again alex alex alex at some point you want to say and where is esther in the story

And if Esther is not mentioned, and what did you do?

You know, when I see a couple and I see one person telling me a story, and then when the other one arrives, it's like everything this one left out is what this one starts with.

It's in the tone, it's in the way.

Of course you come to your friends.