Esther Perel
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
I'm struggling with something.
I don't know what to do.
And good friends sometimes give advice and sometimes really make space and listen and just say, you will figure this out.
I'm here for you if you need to.
Sometimes I need to tell you, this is what I think is happening now.
You need to talk to her.
You need to tell her what's happening with you.
You're dealing with loss.
You're dealing with illness.
You're dealing with children.
You're dealing with no work.
You're dealing with loss of your best friends, whatever.
You need to be able to talk.
But talking is not the same as dishing.
Blame, blame, blame, blame.
And I'm the victim of the other person's doing.
By going outside of your own definition.
What you think is emotionally...
intelligent may not be his vocabulary.
And maybe the day something happens to you, he will show up and he'll deliver and he'll be there for you without many words.