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but it's kind of the same thing. It's like an avoidance strategy. It's like, I have full control in this situation and I'm not vulnerable.

Yes, I love Oliver Berman. He's great.

Yes, I love Oliver Berman. He's great.

Yes, I love Oliver Berman. He's great.

No, I relate to him painfully because... Yeah, me too.

No, I relate to him painfully because... Yeah, me too.

No, I relate to him painfully because... Yeah, me too.

Yeah, and I think I have that tendency to see people as distraction because I'm trying to work. So I'm often like, you know, I need to write in perfect silence. I need to have my perfect routine. And yeah, I read a quote, I think it was C.S. Lewis saying something like, Eventually you realize that all of these distractions from your life were just your life. Like they weren't distractions at all.

Yeah, and I think I have that tendency to see people as distraction because I'm trying to work. So I'm often like, you know, I need to write in perfect silence. I need to have my perfect routine. And yeah, I read a quote, I think it was C.S. Lewis saying something like, Eventually you realize that all of these distractions from your life were just your life. Like they weren't distractions at all.

Yeah, and I think I have that tendency to see people as distraction because I'm trying to work. So I'm often like, you know, I need to write in perfect silence. I need to have my perfect routine. And yeah, I read a quote, I think it was C.S. Lewis saying something like, Eventually you realize that all of these distractions from your life were just your life. Like they weren't distractions at all.

And I think it's really sad to kind of teach young people or just like drill into their heads that they should avoid anyone getting in the way of their self-development and their ambition or their healing because...

And I think it's really sad to kind of teach young people or just like drill into their heads that they should avoid anyone getting in the way of their self-development and their ambition or their healing because...

And I think it's really sad to kind of teach young people or just like drill into their heads that they should avoid anyone getting in the way of their self-development and their ambition or their healing because...

that's life getting in the way um and yeah it's sad to see people kind of half-heartedly do relationships or kind of um put them off in pursuit of that ultimate control i think that's a really that will backfire eventually what are the problems of excessive self-focus

that's life getting in the way um and yeah it's sad to see people kind of half-heartedly do relationships or kind of um put them off in pursuit of that ultimate control i think that's a really that will backfire eventually what are the problems of excessive self-focus

that's life getting in the way um and yeah it's sad to see people kind of half-heartedly do relationships or kind of um put them off in pursuit of that ultimate control i think that's a really that will backfire eventually what are the problems of excessive self-focus

Well, I think it's Jordan Peterson says there's no difference between self-obsession and mental illness in the sense that it's all focusing too much on yourself. Not to say that it's in your control all the time necessarily, but that is what it is. It's focusing too much on your own problems. And I think... Yeah, as I said, girls are particularly vulnerable to it.

Well, I think it's Jordan Peterson says there's no difference between self-obsession and mental illness in the sense that it's all focusing too much on yourself. Not to say that it's in your control all the time necessarily, but that is what it is. It's focusing too much on your own problems. And I think... Yeah, as I said, girls are particularly vulnerable to it.

Well, I think it's Jordan Peterson says there's no difference between self-obsession and mental illness in the sense that it's all focusing too much on yourself. Not to say that it's in your control all the time necessarily, but that is what it is. It's focusing too much on your own problems. And I think... Yeah, as I said, girls are particularly vulnerable to it.

And I think what it does is it blocks real self-development because you can't see... where you're going wrong because you have these endless excuses for why you're behaving the way you are.