Freya India

You can't let a man get in the way of your goals, right?

But then you also have a therapeutic message, which is like, be on guard for any red flags, any signs that someone is not good enough or you're incompatible.

And so I think young women might feel something like an ick and then they're encouraged, especially by social media, to take that feeling really seriously, which is like, if you feel some negative emotion toward your partner, you're incompatible or there's something wrong.

And so I think we're just way more, we're bracing all the time to see the red flags.

Yeah.

That's what I was going to say is I think it's more time to introspect and ruminate because you have girls and young women not just picking up on icks in their partner and like scrutinizing them and looking for flaws, but then doing that to themselves.

So constantly pathologizing, diagnosing themselves, wondering what's wrong with them, over analyzing their personality traits.

And so I do think it's just more time and less time.

bigger problems like say having children where you put your neuroticism, you funnel it into something productive and instead it then turns inwards or also against your partner.

Yeah, I mean, this is kind of what we were talking about before, which is that I think social media platforms have incentivized women to see themselves less as human and more as products.

And so their life becomes about marketing themselves and optimizing themselves.

And so I think, yeah, having a child disrupts being the perfect pristine product.

But then we're in this really weird scenario where...

don't you want to look good in order to reproduce and have children at base level?

But now Instagram comes along and Instagram gives women so much dopamine and status that then that becomes a higher priority.

I think also with young women, sometimes the relationship becomes an accessory to display online.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

It's something to display.

And so the characteristics that maybe you would select for before social media are very different.

Now it's presenting it to other women and how other women will react.