Gemma Speck
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6,373 appearances
17 recordings
1 series
first heard Jan 2026
last heard 13 Jun
Gemma Speck’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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That's why they text them.
That's why they check their socials or they spiral.
When they just think that ignoring them is extinguishing the connection.
Instead, you have to actively compete with the old association and give your brain new sources of reward.
new people who give you connection without anxiety, more social things in your day, connecting with old friends, making new friends, activities, adventures, side quests that create genuine dopamine, novelty like creativity, planning for something, training for something, reaching for a goal, being in environments that don't carry their memory.
It's also important to understand that
Again, I want to really state this.
This kind of distraction is very different from long-term emotional avoidance.
You're allowed, I think, in these moments to still think about them.
You're not suppressing or denying your feelings forever.
You're just creating enough distance so that the intensity is manageable and so that you know that they are not the only thing that's going to make you happy or make you fulfilled.
once the emotional charge is lower you can reflect more clearly you can process what actually happened and you can understand the dynamic without being pulled back into it i think as well the next thing i do i haven't done it in a while but i think it's absolutely essential is
Have an imaginary breakup day where you do everything you'd do if you had actually been in a relationship with this person and broken up.
Take a sick day, go out for a long sad walk in the woods or in nature, write them a long letter, have a hot shower, cry, eat ice cream, drink some wine, watch La La Land, cry some more.
Grieve them in the way that you deserve to.
Basically like have a funeral for the love story that you imagined with them.
this person.
This is so effective.
It's so effective because it essentially creates the ending to counteract the zygonic effect.
Like we spoke about this before, like that unended story.
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