Gemma Speig
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1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I think we all know this, but the more you hustle for approval, the less at ease you are with yourself and the less at ease other people will be with you because they can sense the tension.
They can sense that something untrue is behind the way you speak.
They might notice you contradicting yourself in front of a different friend.
They might even notice you lying.
When you make somebody feel manipulated or as if they're being tricked,
They don't want to be your friend.
They don't want to be your friend.
They don't want to date you.
And so the friendships that would actually suit us, we don't get access to.
And the friendships that we are left with are often with people who are probably doing the exact same thing to us, or they match a specific version of us that we have created and paper mache-ed for that one specific person, meaning you end up with people that you may not even like and actually have nothing organically in common with.
And that in itself can get so boring and tiring.
Again, I don't want to tell you to not go out there and make an effort to make friends, but examine why it is that the people we often like the least, or who show the most disdain or boredom with us,
in some ways seemingly become those we try to impress the most.
Like why does that happen?
I don't know if you've noticed this, it's a real phenomena.
The exclusivity they hold, the approval we feel the need to gain from them becomes intoxicating, psychologically intoxicating, and it becomes this like prize we're so fixated on that we forget that there are people out there who would love us regardless of who we are or what value we had to them.
The best example of
of this phenomenon or like that stereotype is like the in-group or the in-crowd like at high school.
I feel like every single school had one.
Often much of what made them seem so popular and quite frankly powerful and what made us want to be them is the fact that they got to choose who was and wasn't allowed into their group.
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