Gemma Speig
speaker
1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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There's never going to be somebody who fully is like, I really like that person because you're too neutral for people to have an opinion about you.
Of course, there's definitely exceptions to this.
It's only natural that we try and be a different version of ourselves at work, have a good working relationship with our colleagues to make sure that we get the promotion or we don't ruffle any feathers.
We might make the effort to be liked by somebody if it helps us out socially or even if we want to impress them on a first date, with a new friend, with a friend's first date or a new partner.
But
So pick your people, really pick your people and investigate why you feel the need to be different to who you are to be liked and how long that masquerade and how long that, you know, pretending can actually truly last.
If this person ends up being integral to your life because eventually a mask, your mask is going to slip.
I think this really segues into the second thing we lose when we are liked by everybody, which
which is that we never actually find our people.
We never find those people who are 100% for us.
Forcing a persona that is liked by everyone means that the people who would genuinely like you for who you are cannot find you underneath all this other crap that you've put on top.
And again, it's not that you're doing it to be manipulative.
Maybe it's you're doing it to survive or because...
You're quite socially anxious, but it is still a distraction.
This fake version of you is still distracting.
You become less honest, less natural, less you, and therefore you aren't actually rewarded with those deep and meaningful relationships.
There was a study from 2004 that showed that in the context of romantic relationships, especially,
People know when you are being inauthentic and it becomes a barrier for closeness because true intimacy, we know this, requires vulnerability.
And the core foundation, the only way that you can be vulnerable is if you are authentic.
Otherwise, your vulnerability has nothing to draw from.
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