Gemma Speig
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1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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We've kind of spoken about why it is we are so eager to be in every single person's pocket and every single person's group or peripheral vision or in their lives.
What is the cost of this?
What does this do to our lives and to our attention spans and to our time?
Firstly, the biggest thing that comes from needing to be liked by everybody is that you risk losing a coherent sense of self or any stable core that you may have because you've panned it to everybody else's tastes.
If we are constantly becoming an emotional, social, physical version of ourselves that isn't really us to fit in with what we think others will like, how do we know who we really are if that thing is constantly changing?
Being individual requires having strong preferences, right?
It requires you to really like some things, but also really dislike other things.
It requires you to really care about certain events or situations and not care about other things as much.
That means you will naturally, because of those preferences and passions, become aligned or misaligned with certain people who just simply don't think the same way as you.
And for some people, that misalignment can breed dislike.
That dislike, that opposition is often a good thing.
It is a sign that you have strong enough feelings and know yourself well enough for somebody with equally strong feelings to be able to identify that you think strongly and to not agree with you.
That disagreement, and maybe even that dislike if it gets to that level at times, can only occur because you had some skin in the game and because you possessed passion.
If you lose that passion, yes, you may gain likability because you're suddenly, you know, palatable to everyone.
You also lose yourself in the process because you stand for and care for nothing.
Being liked by everyone requires a level of compromise and flexibility that, again, only somebody who has no stable center can offer or can do.
Don't let that be you.
Studies have found as well that although more people may like you if you pander and desire to be liked by them, their actual level of like and how much they like you
And their level of respect for you is actually lower.
So basically what these studies are finding is that you might sit at 50% with everyone, but you never sit at 100% with anyone.
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