Gemma Speig
speaker
1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I've got this person, this person who cares about me.
I must be doing something right.
That is why some people feel safest when they have a partner, because it feels like something in their life is going right.
It feels like they're doing something that society approves of.
It feels like, and it represents to them that
They have a place to go home to.
They have somebody who cares about them and they have been chosen.
So there's this whole mix of things bubbling up.
Anxiety, self-esteem, self-worth, nervous system regulation, attachment.
The irony of relationship hopping though is that
I think, ironically, we think people who are in relationships must be secure and those who are out of them must have something wrong with their attachment style.
But people who are always in relationships are sometimes the most anxious and disorganized people internally.
Being partnered doesn't automatically equal emotional safety or emotional maturity.
It can sometimes just be that we have this coping strategy of seeking emotional closeness with others.
That means, you know, from the outside, it always seems like everything's going well.
It always seems like we've got somebody who cares about us and loves us and, you know, we must be the shit.
We must be pretty great, right?
But the thing is, is that those relationships, and I'm not going to speak for your experiences, just from what I've seen, those relationships are often quite shallow.
Because real vulnerability and real connection, like we know this, you know this, it takes time.
And it takes difficult things to bond, to bond people together.
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