Gemma Speig
speaker
1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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It's awkward.
Real vulnerability is actually really awkward because it involves risk.
It involves the risk of reaching out to somebody and then rejecting you.
It involves the risk of being chosen and being safe and being loved.
And then maybe somebody turning around and not feeling those same things towards you.
And, you know, just kind of knowing that, knowing that's a possibility and still trusting them, especially in those early stages, especially when you're first getting to know somebody.
Now, if you are somebody who is very anxious and has a deep rooted fear of rejection or abandonment, those early days, those early stages of trust.
risk and vulnerability and uncertainty, that can be unbearable.
It can be unbearable to your self-esteem and to your sense of emotional safety.
So instead, you chase that artificial closeness.
You chase the closeness that is created by structure and created by proximity and created by a label and created by...
fast commitment and fast enmeshment and fast emotional intimacy rather than just sometimes letting things happen naturally.
And it's not manipulative.
This isn't a character flaw.
It's self-protection.
It's a logic of thinking.
If I make this official really quickly, if I lock this person down fast, I'll be safe.
If, you know, who cares if I just met this person three weeks ago, a
and they have that label, then they can't leave me.
That's one more barrier to them walking out on me like the last person did, or this relationship crumbling like the last one did.
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