Heather Turgeon

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155 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Mar 2019 last heard Mar 2019

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Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children · TPP 150: Heather Turgeon and Julie Wright On Handling Common Parenting Dilemmas · 26 Mar 2019 podcast

I like visualizations, so

for me it works really well to imagine big emotions as waves and that they sort of come underneath me and that they can sway me but they're not gonna knock me over.

So I kind of imagine that a big feeling is like I'm I'm almost seeing it come towards me and sort of go underneath me and it might it affects me but it doesn't knock me over.

And I I really have to say to myself, this is not my

I you know, it's not my job to make this go away.

I'm just here.

I'm just here to to to be with it.

So the repair step is it's so I think it's so beautiful that it exists because it's such a good reminder to parents that you don't have to get it right the first time and that that's not even the goal.

We don't even want to come across as perfect parents who always, you know, are perfectly calm and say the right thing and act correctly.

I mean, that would be weird anyway.

So being a a human being with all of your nuances of how you react and sometimes it's not the right way or the way that you wish you had reacted is actually a good opportunity for your child.

It's not, you know, not important to be perfect.

It's actually kind of can be a connecting moment for you.

And your child.

And it also teaches them that you're not you're you're not perfect.

You're a human and that you can have moments of what you would call like a rupture or a just a moment that you that that you aren't in sync, you know, and that you come back together and you repair.

So that's what repair is about.

And it's just acknowledging that you

didn't say something that you wish you had said or just processing what happened.

So just saying if it can be in the moment because you can calm down enough and take a deep breath and go like,

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