Hilary Duff

And it doesn't matter that you have kids.

Your kids are going to be okay.

You know what I mean?

You just have to...

show them that like you also matter.

I think that that was a big thing for me is like when you have kids, you kind of become so all consumed by them and they get your everything.

And it was important for me to not let that be a factor because a two-year-old can't decide

that and know what's, you know what I mean?

So.

It's really good advice.

It's like you matter too.

And actually by showing.

But once you become a mom, your guilt becomes so thick that like you don't actually, there's like this part of your brain where you're like, yeah, I'm still in here and I'm still me.

And then there's like this huge shadow over it was like, but everything for the family and everything for your kid.

And, you know, and that's a good, it's, I think again, it's by design, but it's a constant conversation to like,

choose yourself and choose something you know that you enjoy outside of family life and kids because eventually what you're also showing them is like you're leading by example because then they will choose themselves hopefully if they're ever in that situation because they're going to have watched you do it i think that's absolutely right like i had to go drink a martini last night instead of stay home with my family it's just a little thing a lot and i try to still give them everything but like i had to have that dirty martini mom needed it they're not

I call him Matthew when I'm like talking about him.

I don't know why it feels so sophisticated.

Oh.

Okay.