Holly Wainwright

And you guys talked about different openers and I think you're right.

Like my friendships that have a lot of energy, even if we don't see each other very often,

You just can kick off with any message.

But my concern with us putting too many rules around how regular contact has to be and all those things is that we're always on the lookout for a slight.

You know what I mean?

So if somebody reaches out to me and is like, did you see Chalamet's ridiculous moustache at the Oscars?

And if I start off with, well, where have you been?

You're giving someone a gift of making a reply quite easy too, right?

Because it's like, what are you eating right now?

Or like, I don't know, whatever.

I'd like some more good questions like that.

That's not your thing.

Like I've got friends who we just send pictures.

Like this is what I'm looking at.

This is what I'm eating.

Glimmers when you're going through a hard time.

Like this is something that will make you laugh.

But just picture, no pressure to respond.

I relate, Claire, with the fact that because I'm not a very good check-in friend,

A lot of my friends are good check-in friends, and that probably doesn't say anything good about me.