Jay Shetty

We go from having no standards to having standards.

And when you get caught in the middle, people always point it out and it feels really painful because you are going from someone who has never organized to being organized.

But now over time, people tend to respect and forget.

Yeah.

Jefferson, I want to switch to the workplace because I know your expertise in the book also goes into that space.

And I think that's an area where communication is so challenging on so many different levels because now the incentive structure is different.

The hierarchy is different.

There's all these rules in place that in one sense you don't have in friendships and romantic relationships.

If a coworker keeps interrupting you, how do you shut that down without sounding petty?

Yeah.

Yeah.

What are the mistakes we make in the workplace that in our communication that make people respect us less?

Well said.

I like how when you're sharing these examples, there's a layering process, almost like there's a step one.

And if that doesn't work, then there's a step two.

And if that doesn't work, then there's a step three.

It's like there's degrees rather than like, this is the right way and this is the wrong way.

It's almost like it feels like there's an escalation.

And that's important because I think not everyone who looks like they're against you is truly against you.

And, you know, in our mind, we can often portray people in a certain way.