Jessica Lanyadoo

You need to trust your husband to judge you just enough and not too much and to only reject you if you authentically can't handle it.

Okay.

You got to trust him more.

And it's not that you don't trust him.

It's you don't trust anybody because you don't trust you.

Yeah.

And this is ultimately passed down to you from your mother.

It just, you know, I was saying shame spike and I was like sticking my finger up firm, like a spike, right?

Over time, the spike becomes gnarled and it bends in on itself and it breaks and

It doesn't stay a spike that you can shove in the ground forever.

You're young.

You don't have a baby yet.

And this is where it's important to recognize that selfishness is not a problem.

It's selfishness out of proportion with service and presence with others.

That's a problem.

You need to be selfish.

Otherwise, you'll never figure out how to navigate these feelings and make good choices for yourself and let people in.

It's right now you give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, give, and then you hide in a hole and think about yourself.

And so that's selfish, right?

Okay.