Jinger Duggar
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260 appearances
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard Jan 2025
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That's sweet, though.
Share that fact because that is really cool. there are people that were studied that are super agers because they were trying to figure out like what makes them age so well and how do they live so long? And I'm trying to like, remember all the specifics of that story, but,
It is the community that like drives them. And that's how they, that's how they're actually, because they're so engrossed in the community around them, that actually gives them what they need to live longer and to live the happiest, most fulfilled life that they possibly can. And it's a sweet thing because sometimes we think like, okay, we're fine on our own.
And there will be seasons where, I don't know, there are seasons where I feel like, oh, I'm such an extrovert. And then like, I have to be around people, but then I also feel like they're introverted sides of me too.
where i could just be so content to just like want to isolate myself but part of that is because of the people pleasing i feel like well it's more comfortable yes because you're thinking what does this person think about me how am i appearing before them like all these things and then when you get in that thought process like well i'll just isolate myself and stay home yeah or i just won't connect with somebody i won't go to dinner with them because i just feel like a mess today
But that comes up. That's the first thing that we think about as people pleasers. And I think that when we realize that's unhealthy and it's also selfish and it's manipulative to think like, okay, I'm going to try to figure out how I can make everybody else think I'm great. in this situation, then you're going into every situation, not caring for that person, not loving them like you should.
Cause all you're doing is trying to get something out of them.
I will eat Brahms every single day.
It's so precious, that couple.
Yeah. And part of it was like we didn't look like everyone else there because they may have been homeschool families, but they were not like us. They're more mainstream or whatever. And then there were also people from the community who were not even homeschoolers. There's just like a hodgepodge of broomball players. And. And it's like, yeah, it was crazy.
So but we looked we did not look like everyone else either. You know, we didn't blend in as well. And so there was a certain side of like feeling insecure about that. Right. Like, how do we fit in? And I always felt like so awkward and uncomfortable in those settings. And then we can't afford anything. So that's another embarrassment on top of it.
So you're sitting there and this, this couple, they would always ask us like, what are you interested in? What are you, you know, what do you, what are you like, I don't know, up to these days. And they would ask us questions and really try to like get to know us as kids. And it was sweet because, you know, they weren't gaining anything from that.
And like, we were awkward and dressed different than everyone else. And I think that That was something that stood out to me. They really cared and they wanted us to feel included in a part of the group, even though we weren't the same as everybody else. And that really meant a lot.
Yeah. I think that because of the culture, um, and what we were taught, I think because of Bill Gothard's teachings, we thought that that was the best way to honor God. And that's really what we were kind of taught. And so I thought that like those convictions were my convictions too, because I thought that's what the Bible wanted me to do is like to wear skirts only, um,
that come below the knee to not wear sleeveless shirts um things like that right and to follow all these rules is how i'm pleasing to god so i didn't like i was also more of a people pleaser in that even in that time so i wasn't i was just trying to stay on everyone's good side and be, you know, just be pleasantly like agreeable to everything.
And I think that there might've been some of the siblings who pushed against it. I didn't, we wouldn't really talk about that if there was like publicly. So I don't know. But for my, for me, I just remember one time where it was that swimsuit that I was going to have to wear. And all the, all these people were like going to the lake or whatever.
My family was there visiting some friends out of state. And I just remember like saying, I'm not going to wear that. I'm too embarrassed. And I just did not go in the water of course. And I didn't know how to swim anyways. So I was also embarrassed about that. But I just remember not going in the water at all that day. Cause I was like too embarrassed about my swimsuit. So.
Yeah. The one that goes like all the way down, you know, and then it's like the dress thing and it was, yeah. And those friends were not just like us either. So, you know, they were probably wearing shorts and a t-shirt or something and they water with us. But I just was like, I just better. I was like, I'm not doing this. And I felt so bad for having, for feeling like I didn't want to wear that.
I mean, I disobeyed them, but not like rebellion type things. Like I can't think of, I wasn't a rebellious child. So I wasn't going to push the boundaries. Like I said, I just want to keep everybody happy. And I think that they probably saw me as like one of the most compliant kids ever. And probably would have never expected me of all the kids to like, to change anything.
Because if I saw that something was in the Bible, I was like, well, I want to obey God. So I'm going to do that. Um, but then once I saw like, okay, these teachings are not accurate and it's actually not what the Bible says. Then I knew before God, I wasn't sitting, I was doing what was right and I'm honoring God. So at some point I'm gonna have to step out and just live that out.
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