Jinger Duggar

But we don't care because that's what genuine friendship is, is in that place of us not just trying to keep a front of who we want people to think that we are. But they're able to actually come into our life and see, okay, they don't have it all together. I don't either. We don't have to keep up this front. And that's how I've now had the best friendship with my friend.

That was really, really sweet. That is so good. Yeah. Cause we do initially, but yeah, we do initially just think like, Oh, they're going to think so much less of us if we don't have everything together. And if we don't keep up this like facade of who we think we're supposed to be, And I think in that time we do lose ourselves. And like you were even saying, some of it can be a survival thing.

That was really, really sweet. That is so good. Yeah. Cause we do initially, but yeah, we do initially just think like, Oh, they're going to think so much less of us if we don't have everything together. And if we don't keep up this like facade of who we think we're supposed to be, And I think in that time we do lose ourselves. And like you were even saying, some of it can be a survival thing.

That was really, really sweet. That is so good. Yeah. Cause we do initially, but yeah, we do initially just think like, Oh, they're going to think so much less of us if we don't have everything together. And if we don't keep up this like facade of who we think we're supposed to be, And I think in that time we do lose ourselves. And like you were even saying, some of it can be a survival thing.

Like it really can be in, in how we process and we can think, okay, like, you know, there are times where maybe you have to keep somebody happy with you because they're not a healthy person to be around. And so you just have, you feel like you have to like keep them happy until you can get out of that situation. And like that can be another coping mechanism that we try to use.

Like it really can be in, in how we process and we can think, okay, like, you know, there are times where maybe you have to keep somebody happy with you because they're not a healthy person to be around. And so you just have, you feel like you have to like keep them happy until you can get out of that situation. And like that can be another coping mechanism that we try to use.

Like it really can be in, in how we process and we can think, okay, like, you know, there are times where maybe you have to keep somebody happy with you because they're not a healthy person to be around. And so you just have, you feel like you have to like keep them happy until you can get out of that situation. And like that can be another coping mechanism that we try to use.

Um, but it also is like there, there are different sides to it, but when it comes to genuine friendship, you're not able to build that unless you let people into the messy sides of your life as well as the good sides. And so that's something that it's so hard for all of us to do every single day.

Um, but it also is like there, there are different sides to it, but when it comes to genuine friendship, you're not able to build that unless you let people into the messy sides of your life as well as the good sides. And so that's something that it's so hard for all of us to do every single day.

Um, but it also is like there, there are different sides to it, but when it comes to genuine friendship, you're not able to build that unless you let people into the messy sides of your life as well as the good sides. And so that's something that it's so hard for all of us to do every single day.

For sure. Yes. A hundred percent. I think for me in particular, like that is definitely something I was so insecure for so many years, which led me to some bad places because even with the way that I was viewing eating and things like that, I struggled with like just not eating enough. And it was, it was because I thought I was too fat and I wasn't.

For sure. Yes. A hundred percent. I think for me in particular, like that is definitely something I was so insecure for so many years, which led me to some bad places because even with the way that I was viewing eating and things like that, I struggled with like just not eating enough. And it was, it was because I thought I was too fat and I wasn't.

For sure. Yes. A hundred percent. I think for me in particular, like that is definitely something I was so insecure for so many years, which led me to some bad places because even with the way that I was viewing eating and things like that, I struggled with like just not eating enough. And it was, it was because I thought I was too fat and I wasn't.

And it was a thought process of like wanting to belong and wanting to have those friendships that were genuine. And, At some point we realized, okay, well, we were designed for community. That's a good thing. We weren't designed to live on an island by ourselves. We're supposed to be in community with other people. But when sin entered the world, that was broken. And so now...

And it was a thought process of like wanting to belong and wanting to have those friendships that were genuine. And, At some point we realized, okay, well, we were designed for community. That's a good thing. We weren't designed to live on an island by ourselves. We're supposed to be in community with other people. But when sin entered the world, that was broken. And so now...

And it was a thought process of like wanting to belong and wanting to have those friendships that were genuine. And, At some point we realized, okay, well, we were designed for community. That's a good thing. We weren't designed to live on an island by ourselves. We're supposed to be in community with other people. But when sin entered the world, that was broken. And so now...

community can be flawed. We, people will let us down. And so we're afraid of that. We're afraid of their rejection. We fear that if we show them, you know, the side of me struggling, or maybe I don't look as pretty as I want to be, then I'm not going to be accepted.

community can be flawed. We, people will let us down. And so we're afraid of that. We're afraid of their rejection. We fear that if we show them, you know, the side of me struggling, or maybe I don't look as pretty as I want to be, then I'm not going to be accepted.

community can be flawed. We, people will let us down. And so we're afraid of that. We're afraid of their rejection. We fear that if we show them, you know, the side of me struggling, or maybe I don't look as pretty as I want to be, then I'm not going to be accepted.

Um, or I have to have designer clothes to like, to have people notice me and things like that, where we can fall into these tendencies of, um, wanting so desperately to be liked by people and That that desperation leads us to bad places. And it can be where we feel like, okay, now I'm so consumed with myself.