John Delony

Why didn't you fill in the blank with no attention to walking in the door and hugging the 11 year old first and saying, thank God you stepped up.

I knew I could count on you.

Mm-hmm.

Right?

Yeah.

I've had situations where I had to leave.

You know what?

I'll tell you the other night.

This happened the other night.

I have a 15-year-old who's a couple of years older than you were and a 9-year-old.

And my wife came in at 11 o'clock and said, I got to go to the ER right now.

This is just a month ago.

I left a note for both of them, and I drove my wife to the ER.

And when I got home, the first thing I did was not say, oh my gosh, why are there clothes on the floor?

The first thing I did, and again, I'm not a perfect parent.

The first thing I did was I walked in, I hugged my son, I hugged my daughter and said, thank you guys for stepping up.

You get what I'm saying?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.

And why am I pointing back to all of this stuff?

You're not dealing with guilt, you're dealing with shame.