Julie Smith
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first heard Jun 2026
last heard 28 Jun
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I think something that probably goes wrong is when people avoid the difficult conversations.
That if we know something's going to bring up emotion or it's going to be a little bit testy or heated, then we avoid it and we cover it over.
And those sorts of things, that tendency to do that is...
is a bit like trying to hold air under water.
Like it will always find its way to the surface, but when you least expect it.
So if you're, I often do this exercise in therapy actually with people where, I can probably do it with the book actually.
So if you put your hand on the other side and just push against me,
So if you imagine that is a kind of a bunch of feelings or issues that you don't really want to deal with, it's uncomfortable.
And so you don't, right?
You just hold it at arm's length.
You can carry on with the rest of your day and you're pushing it away.
I'm all the shit you don't want to have.
I'm all the thoughts and the feelings or the difficulties in your relationship that you don't really want to deal with.
And I'm trying to be in your head.
And so you have to keep pushing back to keep me at bay.
So now if we said, okay, end of this, go about the rest of your day.
And I'm just going to be doing this all day.
And it would be difficult to kind of focus on stuff, but also when you get tired or you let your guard down, this is going to come flying over and hit you in the face.
So that's when all the difficult emotions suddenly hit us and we feel absolutely overwhelmed because we've been holding it back for so long.
And then something's happened, we've let our guard down and it's just like opened the floodgates.
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