Kasley Killam

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637 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard May 2026 last heard 7 May

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The Mel Robbins Podcast · It's Not Just You: The Reality of Adult Friendship Right Now · 7 May 2026 podcast

Deepening the connections that we already have, becoming closer to them.

Just like we tone our physical muscles by lifting heavier weights or working out harder.

we can deepen our connections to tone.

And then the final strategy is to flex our social muscles.

So just like we flex our physical muscles when we are feeling really strong and looking good, we can flex our social muscles to enjoy the relationships that we have and actually sustain them in the long term.

So if you are feeling lonely right now, the first thing I want to say is that it is nothing to be ashamed of.

It does not mean that you are not lovable or likable.

In fact, it's a really common experience.

You are not alone.

A recent study found that one in six Americans reports being isolated or lonely most or all of the time.

So this is a really common experience and relationships ebb and flow over the course of our lives.

We move, we have kids, we go through these different life changes.

It's actually a really natural symptom of our society.

The second thing I want to say to you is that just like you can go from being out of shape to physically strong again, you can go from feeling isolated or disconnected to being socially healthy and strong again.

Sure.

So the neuroscience on this is really interesting.

For one thing, we see that when people are chronically lonely, that can trigger some really limiting self-beliefs.

So, for example, people who are feeling disconnected might go into a social interaction feeling more guarded, less likely to open up and share, interpreting negative cues more than they're interpreting positive cues.

And all of that can actually inhibit them from having a positive interaction with the other person.

Ironically, it's a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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