Kate Murphy

I got a busy day.

But to really lean into that and give yourself, it's almost like taking a deep breath.

and really focusing on that person.

This is who's in front of me right now.

Give yourself a chance to sync with that person and have a better interaction and not mingle it with the energy that you're bringing from the previous interaction.

Well, it could be that.

It could be leaving the room.

But that's the thing is to become aware subconsciously.

I mean, it is crazy when you look at the research that when people come together, they really do.

They mimic each other's facial expressions.

Have you ever been to a movie and seen somebody's face like mimics whatever the actors and actresses are doing on the screen?

You ever seen people do that?

Okay, well, I told you I'm pathologically curious, but people do do that, and they do that with one another.

And you may not be able to see it as clearly as sometimes you do in a movie, but it's all these microexpressions, but it's also your physiology.

People start to, they touch their hair at the same time, they touch their face at the same time, they cross their legs, they lean forward, they lean back.

People are really in this subconscious physical dance with one another.

and also within them as well.

Their heart rate, their respiration, all these hormonal activity, pupil dilation, all of that is starting to sync up.

So if you can think about when you are in an interaction with another person and things are not going well, or you are interpreting because you've improved your interception that you're getting really tense, to just do things as simple as take a deep breath,

Cross your legs the other direction.