Katherine Woodward Thomas

Actually, it is because your father.

It is because of what happened and how you interpreted that.

And then it's how you started to show up.

This is another piece of it.

How we are the source of our own experience.

So in the I'm not good enough, what we tend to do is we over-function.

We over-give.

We do, do, do, do.

That was me.

And you start over-functioning with other people so that they start under-functioning.

So in a way, you're training people that your time is not as valuable as theirs.

You're not really as good as them.

You're more subservient to them.

This is how we then enroll

a relational field that validates that story.

Because self is not a solo phenomenon.

Self is relational.

And so what's happening for most of us is that we're working on our issues, but we keep going back to the past.

And what happens where we get stuck is that we get victimized by our own imprinting now.

right now my father was this way and now this is how I am and I can't get out of it and we get mad at ourselves and we don't know how to figure out to reprogram ourselves and so we keep going backwards to do it I did this for well over a decade until I finally figured out when I was like around 40 and I'd been working on myself since my early 20s it was a long time to be swimming and