Kendra Dahlstrom

So I always, I coin it as that you're showing up DOA, whether you know it or not, because of my

my near-death experience, and that's how I was living.

And the acronym obviously stands for dead on arrival, but for me, it also stands for you're doing, just to do, just to keep busy, because that's how we're trained and how we're rewarded in society.

You've outgrown the life that you're living in, and you might not even know it.

And the last one is you're achieving just for the sake of chronic achievement, because you're trying to prove your way out of emptiness.

And you think that achieving equals fulfillment,

And busyness is productivity.

And self-sacrifice equals leadership.

And external validation is the measure of success.

And you think that you can outperform this unworthiness.

So I just wanted to share that quick story with you because I think that's what I try to bring people back to.

And I think that that's what's often missing is they just get caught up in the busyness.

Well, it's not, I mean, so there's not like a one solution for all because I know I was there probably even 15 years ago.

And I remember a coach asking me, what do you want?

And I was like, I just started crying.

I'm like, I don't know.

And everything I'd answer is like, well, I want my kids, my husband.

No, what do you want?

Everything was about everyone else, which isn't a bad thing to want, but you also have to be clear on what you want.

you know, for my own personal story, this doesn't have to be true for listeners, but it sometimes can be.