Kim Pollender

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159 appearances 1 recordings 1 series first heard Aug 2026 last heard 6 Aug

Kim Pollender’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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The scene was set for how they now approach conflict and confrontation.

His approach is, I know my wife's upset.

I'm just going to lay low a little bit.

I'm completely overwhelmed here with my family.

I'm just going to

let her decide when to contact me.

Her side is, hey, we just had a big fight yesterday.

You know, I'm stressed today about you being with your family and how that's going to play out.

Why wouldn't you check in with me?

And so her idea of we just had conflict.

You should be checking in more.

His idea of we just had conflict.

Ooh, I'm not going to check in more is now where we have the makings of a big fight.

I believe that the fastest, quickest, most effective way to deescalate a situation is to express understanding.

Empathy first.

And the best way to set someone up to really understand the other person's point of view is to trace the breadcrumbs back to this early conditioning.

for her to understand why he would even respond to conflict.

Even though she knows that he loves her and cares about her very much, why in this moment of high stress would he not come in and check in with her?

For her to understand that it's not just this cold callous, like you don't care about me.

And this is a dynamic that most relationships have,

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