Kim Pollender
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first heard Aug 2026
last heard 6 Aug
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to be able to communicate your needs, have it heard, and then respond with, okay, where do we go from here?
What does the schedule look like?
Get into logistics.
But what happens is that people, once again, we're caught in our lens and we can't hear the other person, we don't get resolution, and then we walk away feeling very unsatisfied.
Absolutely, absolutely.
Because what I love about the definition of resentment is the perception of being treated unfairly.
Once again, when we talk about perception, we're now talking about your lens.
Them showing up 20 minutes late for date night means that they don't care, the perception.
I'm always punctual.
It's unfair that I'm always waiting for them.
It's them not taking care of the kids at bedtime with me, helping me with that.
is unfair, true, that means that they are selfish.
They don't care that I'm struggling.
So once again, whenever the lens comes into play of how we perceive unfairness, it's always a
adjacent to and meshed with that lens, with our beliefs that are associated with our emotional experience.
I'm suffering, they don't care.
This math, this bad math that gets set when we're very young.
If I take care of everything, I'm lovable.
If I'm crying and upset and struggling and they don't check in with me, I'm unlovable.
Well, it's interesting because when we talk about signs of contempt, and I completely agree with this, that contempt is the relationship killer.
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