Kristin Neff
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first heard Oct 2020
last heard Oct 2020
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But there are differences in in levels.
And it's not like an east-west difference.
So we found in some of our research, for instance, that Thailand, now Thailand's very Buddhist and they take meditation very seriously and self-compassion is kind of part of the culture.
And they have higher levels.
Taiwan, we found is very, very low because it's kind of the Confucian culture, the belief that you need to criticize yourself to achieve.
Um Americans were kind of in between.
People in Britain are actually low.
It's kind of that Puritan, you know, ethic of, you know, just don't complain, carry on, you know, soldier on.
Um so there are differences in levels of self-compassion, partly based on um the cultural messages we receive.
Yeah, and so first of all, just to say it's natural.
So for instance, my son Rowan, now you can imagine I've never criticized him, I've always talked about self compassion, and I still sometimes I overhear him, you know, autistic kids often talk out loud.
I often overhear him beating himself up when he's made a mistake.
And I didn't give that to him.
And so part of it is just the natural fear reaction, right?
He's afraid and he's seen like in cartoons, well, bullies bully others to try to control their behavior.
So he bullies himself to try to control things because he's afraid of making that mistake again.
And so it's we as parents, we don't have to own all our children self criticism.
It it also comes naturally again, it's a basic natural safety behavior.
At the same time
the fact that I have talked a lot to him about self-compassion is paying off.
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