Kute Blackson
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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Then you can align your thoughts, your feelings, your strategy, your planning, your go-getter personality, your actions together. Now in alignment with what's authentic rather than chasing something that is really not real, not authentic. And so it might mean when you surrender that you work harder than you ever worked. But what you're working for is like, you think Jesus didn't work hard?
Do you think Bruce Lee didn't work hard? Do you think Muhammad Ali didn't? Like, do you think Mother Teresa was lazy and didn't work hard? They worked like crazy. 24-7, Mandela, Martin Luther King, nonstop, 24-7. But they were in alignment with the deeper vision of what was true. And maybe like, let's look at Mandela. Mandela surrendered.
That took him to what, 26, 27 years in prison, somewhere kind of unexpected. So we could say, Should he have not spent 26, 27 years in prison? What if he didn't? Two things. Would the consciousness of the world have been ready for and rallied behind him in the way that it did? And would he have developed, like, to spend 27 years in prison, you have to go really deep in yourself.
And so perhaps that was the universe's way of preparing him to develop the mental, emotional, spiritual soul force that he could come out and be that empathetic and visionary and compassionate to be able to move the world. So what if he didn't, you know? And so I think surrendering is that openness and availability.
That's natural.
No, no. It's part of the process of life. You're like, you're so on course. Just know. Here's what I would say. Part of surrender isn't just, oh, I'm fully surrendered now. I read The Magic of Surrender. No. Part of real surrender. is the ability to not even force yourself to surrender.
Like, I'm going to make myself surrender because this becomes another ego strategy to control the process of surrender, which then keeps you doubly screwed, doubly not surrendered. So now my ego says, surrender. I'm going to control surrender. Now you're doubly stuck. So if you can just even begin by recognising I'm not freaking surrendering right now. I'm doing my control thing right now.
And I'll explain why. Wow. Okay. Observe that. And rather than forcing and judging and like, what's wrong with me? If you can just surrender to the fact that in this moment, you're not surrendered. That's actually a deeper level of surrender where you can be with, wow, I'm not surrendered right now.
And I don't have to judge my, just notice that and be with that and acknowledge that and surrender to that. You may not be fully surrendered in this moment and it's okay. And if you can just meet yourself in that space with a bit of compassion, then there can be a relaxation rather than surrender, surrender. But no, surrender. I need to surrender. No, I should be sure I'm what it's like.
I'm not surrendered right now. Let me just be with that. So here's the thing. I think this might help as well. I'm going to kind of break down the anatomy of why we don't surrender. And I think this understanding will really help. What I'll say actually before I do that is life is a process of surrender. So on some level, you can't not surrender. It's just surrender.
How are you going to go about that? How are you going to participate with the process of life that is happening? Because the moment you're born, we begin to age. Then we turn 50, 60, hair falls out, wrinkles. You can't turn back time. surrender. Then we die. We can surrender now. We can surrender tomorrow. We can surrender at the moment of death of those that believe in another lifetime.
We're going to surrender. So surrender is the process of life. And so here's what happens and why it's difficult for us as human beings. Or I should say, why surrender seems difficult. And I'm going to say why I say seems in a second. It seems difficult. And to a degree, it is. But here's why. You have a kid. You mentioned you have a kid. As children, we're born free.
like when your kid is born they're just like these light beings of divine energy they're not like they're just being light being pure they're kind of surrendered they poop when they feel like pooping and they don't judge themselves like ah what's wrong with me i'm pooping they cry when they feel like right why did i cry i'm waking my mother up they're just being whatever they're being right and you're pissed off upset type they're just still just googling and smiling and and and
They surrender to whatever it is that's happening, whatever it is that they are. They'll run, they'll bang their head, they'll cry, then they're over it and they move on. They're not still four days later thinking about, oh, the time I banged my head four days ago on that coffee table. They're just in the natural flow of living the flow of the essence. They're surrendered. So what happens?
It's like we were all there three once, but what the hell happened to us all as human beings as we hit 20 and 30 and 40? We incarnate and we were born into a preset pattern of conditioning. We met our parents. Our parents are conditioned based on their childhood and their parents and their parents and ancestral. Now we're born into a kind of ancestral conditioning from our generations.
And maybe dad was an alcoholic. Maybe mom had mental health issues. Maybe they were fighting all the time. Maybe there was trauma, abuse, dysfunction in the family. Maybe they were great people, but they just didn't know how to meet our emotional needs. And that was painful. So two things happened in terms of why and how ego changed. Ego, which is the source of resistance. Why ego gets created.
If we understand this, it can shift your relationship. The first thing is we begin as children unconsciously to learn a defense mechanism strategy to shut down, disconnect, and not feel the pain that's going on around us. So we start suppressing, suppressing, suppressing, suppressing, suppressing layers and layers of unfelt feeling, anger, hurt, pain, guilt, shame, fear, helplessness.
We start suppressing that in order to function and survive. Layers and layers and layers of unfelt feeling begin to build up and our true light, our true essence gets kind of hidden and buried underneath the unfelt layers of emotion. And also in that we learn all sorts of defense mechanisms and strategies in order to not feel so now we become... We erect walls around our heart.
It's a survival mechanism. Walls around the heart. We begin to disconnect. We begin to shut down. We begin to, you know, analyze, go into our minds. We begin to go into like overachiever mode because if I can overachieve, then I don't have to deal with my feelings. I don't have to feel helpless. I don't have to feel, you know, whatever it is that we're feeling. Often it's helplessness, it's pain.
So now we've become this thing, this defensive mechanism thing that we hold on to tightly and now we're driving life this way. It worked for us when we were five. And we become this thing. We hold tightly onto that in order to never feel that pain again. Worked for us when we were five, but now we're 25. We're in a relationship and now we're doing the same thing.
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