Leah Ruppanner

I don't want you to be thinking like, oh, I now have to just outsource everything.

But I want you to get really clear on what's the work you hate and what are the potential options.

And then one of the other things I talk about is good is good enough.

Getting a good is good enough mentality.

Starting to think about when our standards are too high.

You said this to me earlier in the interview, right?

Like,

Are we just holding ourselves to too high of standards?

Sometimes, yes.

I understand this feeling because we want to be good and we want to be likable and we don't want people to be disappointed at us.

We don't want people to be angry with us and we want people to be happy and we want people to feel good.

One of the challenges is people often have really long lists of people that they are trying to be kind to.

That can be too much.

And so one piece of the mental load audit is to start to get clear on who is on your starting lineup right now.

That doesn't mean you have to fire everybody.

Just you can't have everyone on the field or on the court or on the diamond, whichever sport analogy you prefer.

Because what I would hear would be, you know, people were weighing, one of the mothers in the book would talk about like, you know, I'm weighing the requests from my book club, from the PTA, and from my parents as the same.

And I can't say no to any of them.

But if you have a moment to go like, who's really critical right now?

I think it becomes a little bit easier to say no.