Lindsey Carnick
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315 appearances
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first heard Feb 2025
last heard Feb 2025
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So people go like, oh, you're going to disconnect from me.
I'm going to withdraw first, right?
I'm going to standoffish in a loop and maybe stonewall or maybe, you know, get a little sour, whatever it may be, before you do.
I'm preempting you disconnecting from me by disconnecting from you because it's so painful to be disconnected from.
So people, that's how people get into fights as opposed to like disagreement is they're having a disagreement and then they preemptively, someone preemptively either withdraws or starts throwing grenades because they're afraid of being the one who gets disconnected from.
So they do it first.
Yes.
So to find out that you can have a disagreement, you can call a fight and remain connected.
is really, really remarkable.
And what I like to suggest people do is that they sit down on the floor, okay?
Legs crossed, so your knees are touching your partner.
And you hold out your hands and you put your hands, so one person's hands are on top, one person, so you're functionally holding hands, right?
In the middle.
Somebody's hands are resting on their legs.
Yes, you see it.
Then you lean in, so your forehead's almost touching.
So you are physically connected at the knees, the hands, and almost the forehead.
And then,
you have a disagreement about pizza toppings because pizza toppings is no stakes.
And you see what it looks like to stay connected and stay curious about something that you're disagreeing about because chances are you're going to be able to resist pulling back or throwing a grenade over pizza toppings because no stakes.
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