Lindsey Metselaar
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I am honored to be here. Thank you for having me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Let's pack it up then.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
The name came because I was very single at the time of starting my podcast and I was frequenting Acme, which is a club in the city. And I had met some people there and I knew some people that met there and it just kind of rolled off the tongue and sounded really, really nice. And the second part of the question was, remind me again.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I do talk to millennials. The core message is really I'm trying to be like a big sister character to a lot of people in the dating world. Yeah. The message is like, you are amazing. You know your self-worth. And date like you are the shit, basically. Date like it's about you choosing them, not them choosing you. And here are some ways to make dating not as stressful.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And that's when the rules come in.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
The shit trope. The shit's coming back. Bring back the shits.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah. Well, what's funny is that I always thought that I was an expert, right? Like I was that overconfident dater from the beginning where I thought that I was doing everything right all the time until I was really badly dumped. And it was kind of like a wake up call where I was like, Oh my God, you know, I'm not doing the right things or I'm not as good as I think I am.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And the reason I thought I was good was because I was always great at helping friends text and like the banter stuff. That was like something I was confident about that. I knew what I was doing, but when it came to, and like, I could get, I can get people to date me. Right. But then when it came to like long lasting relationships, it was a little bit harder. Um,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And so I had a friend come over and we were just kind of talking about our dating life. And this was like five years ago. And I was like, why don't we just record this conversation? There is no podcast out there that's about dating right now. It's like news and crime. And I feel like other people can relate to this conversation.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
chaos that is dating, especially in New York City, but as a millennial. And so we just recorded it and we released it. And the rest is history.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Millennials have so many different mediums when it comes to dating. It is all of these different ways to communicate. So Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, Pinterest, Venmo, like anything is a dating app to millennials. And so it gets really complicated. Like we're overstimulated. We just have too many different modes of communication that often we're not communicating at all as millennials.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And with the dating apps, which everyone has, I guess every generation has, but... we get really desensitized to just like swiping and swiping and swiping. And so I think it's just between communication struggles and having too many options. As a millennial dater, it can be really hard to sift through the noise and actually stick with something.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
That could be. It also could be because women are so complicated and so confusing. And I like will talk to women about their dating lives and they'll be like, I just don't understand. Like this person will talk to me forever and not ask me out. But then when somebody asked them out, like right away, they were like, Oh my God, he asked me out right away.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And so I think it's just finding like a happy medium between the two. I'd imagine in that situation, the woman was just like, Oh my God, it was like too much too soon, you know?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
You know, I never was that good at... this answer because I got decently lucky I mean I had I had one date that was just like really mean um he told me that I sounded like a farmer which like I guess he meant as an insult like and I didn't really know how to respond to that and that was just a weird experience and then I had um
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
So I had like the mean guys and then I've had the guys who were just like, it's pulling teeth to have a conversation with. And it's so funny. It's always those guys that it's pulling teeth to have a conversation with that ask you on a second date. And you're like, were we on the same date? Like were we, and I wonder, I bet you it's the same for reverse.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Meaning like if a guy feels like he's pulling teeth on a date, maybe the girl thinks that it went well. You know what I mean?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
It's possible, but I don't think negging works in any negging came from a place of I feel like it was created from a place of insecurity, just like this person is doing so well. They think they're so cool. So let's like knock them down a peg and see if it works. Negging only worked once for me in college. But again, I was in college, so that's probably why.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
No, it worked on me. Someone did it to me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
A guy came up to me who I later ended up dating and he said, your legs are so hairy. That's definitely an insult.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And by the way, he had no idea if they were or not. He was just saying that. And my legs were hairy. I don't really shave my legs, but I'm not like a hairy person. They just like it's like peach fuzz. But I was like, what? Like, how do you know? You know, and but normally does not work.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Totally. Way more.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
So what that means is that if, and this is more like towards women dating men, it's like if you're, but still for men too, if you're confused about how they feel about you, like they're hot and cold, or you're still trying to figure out, screenshot the conversation, send it to friends, do you think they like me? you know, like waiting on their every last word to try to figure out.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
It's like that meme with like the math problem on the board like, do they like me? They don't because you wouldn't be confused if somebody did like you, if somebody showed up consistently, made plans with you, messaged you, you know, every day when you're dating and whatnot. That's what that really means. And that like would have saved me so much time when dating in my 20s if I knew that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Right. Like if you're asking a friend, if you're like, Oh, maybe he, you know, maybe he turned his phone off for the weekend. No.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah. I think I will say that it's harder, especially if it's a woman who follows women-adapted dating rules because we don't necessarily put all of our cards on the table right away. Okay. But if a woman answers your text in like a timely manner, if she's continuing to get excited when you suggest going out on dates and –
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
she kisses you and, you know, smiles and laughs at your jokes and likes to banter with you and enjoys like talking every day. And you have like kind of these inside jokes, like those are all signs that a woman is interested in you. I think that with women, we are more clear when we're not interested than men.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Um, we will usually send like an, what I call like an anti ghost text, which is like, you know, it's been great getting to know you. I didn't feel a connection, blah, blah, blah. Um, I feel, and I could be wrong, but most of the women that I know aren't big on like the leading guys on for no reason type of thing. Um,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And we're human, just like we would feel bad if we were taken on multiple nice dinner dates and still weren't interested. We'd probably cut it off after a while. So I think that if a woman's interested, she's continuing to go out with you. There's kissing, maybe a little bit more as we get to know each other, texting.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And if a woman's not interested in you, then she's not responding to your messages. She's, you know, continuing to reschedule, prioritize other things. But what can be complicated from a man's perspective is like, if you are the kind of guy who's not planning these dates ahead, who's sending that like last minute text that's like, oh, like, are you free now?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And then you're like, but she's not going out with me. Then that's on you. Then she would be interested in you if you like got your shit together.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Totally. And I love that you did that and that you stayed with it. And I think that's the one double standard that – that's one of the double standards that men can get away with is that persistency. And like if I were coaching women, I would be like, you know, if he's interested, he's going to want to go out with you. But for women, I think –
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
A lot of the time we hear these stories of like, oh, I wasn't like, oh, I was like, you know, still had feelings for my ex or I was dealing with this. But like he kept texting me and like showing that he was interested in me and then like it aligned and worked out. You don't often hear that the other way around.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Vulnerability is crucial when dating. I think that it's definitely a dance in terms of like when you start to be vulnerable. I would say like dates one to three, you like do like a tiny dive into vulnerability. And then after the third date is when you get a But you could sprinkle it in here and there.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
For example, I think that it's really great to talk about your past relationships on the first few dates. Not extensively, but more so just like how come your last relationship ended? What did you take away from it? What's your blind spot when it comes to dating that you're trying to be better at in relationships? I think that just that curiosity is crucial and that curiosity...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
creates vulnerability um so that kind of vulnerability is good i think if you have like a family trauma i which we all do i would probably save that for like date four or or after um but again like going back to the sprinkling like if you're in therapy and you think that that's a big part of your life and has shaped you then talk about that in dates one two three i think that that's
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Like that shows like the power in vulnerability if you're able to, you know, talk about that stuff in a positive way. But just don't bring the energy down with your vulnerability, if that makes sense.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I think that everybody, when they're dating, is looking for somebody to bring lightness and good energy into their lives and levity. And when we kind of dump our shit onto the date, it's...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
can be indicative of like how that relationship is going to go like oh this person's going to be complaining or this person's going to bring me down and so it's not like don't be yourself if you have that part of you that's that's okay but it's more like lead with your good foot foot or the best foot forward and so like for example with the therapy um
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
thing like I might bring it up to say or like if I were a guy bring it up to say like therapy has been so amazing for me made me realize like that my career wasn't the best for me now I'm in this great career as opposed to being like therapy made me realize that like I really struggled as a kid and like dating has been really hard for me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
It's like you want to just bring that positivity into the date because people are expecting to leave in a good mood from a date, not like being brought down.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Like that's a good frame. Yeah. Focusing on the lesson, focusing on the takeaway is amazing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Exactly. Yeah, no, I, I think that's great. And like vulnerability shows maturity and shows that like you are ready to find that connection.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I think most men lean towards too logical and I forgot where I was when I learned this but I remember I was in some sort of like WeWork seminar a long time ago and we were being taught about listening and how men listen and how women listen and it was like men usually listen to fix the problem
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Whereas men, sorry, whereas women listen to like be empathetic towards the problem and like hear you and, you know, commiserate or whatnot. And that kind of relates to dating. It's like men lean towards like what makes sense of this. And women tend to lean towards like, what am I feeling about this? And I think that both men and women need to take a page from the other person's book.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And so men, I think, need to stop being as logical when it comes to dating. And I actually just had a situation like this. I do like this, ask me anything on Fridays on my Instagram. And someone had asked me how Steven, how my husband knew I was the one and when. And I asked him to answer for me. I was like, send me like a little blurb of, you know, how you knew I was one and I will share it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And I'm actually going to pull it up because he... He was so logical in his first answer that I was cringing from it. I was like, you need to try again, right? His first answer was, I wouldn't say it hit me in a single moment. It was more of a series of moments together over a period of time.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
With each stage of our relationship, my affection for you grew to a place where I loved you an insane amount and I knew I'd found a partner with whom I could squeeze the most out of life. Maybe it was a weird combination of adoration and optimism. That was something I hadn't felt slash how I knew. I was like, listen, that is so sweet, but there is like no, that's so robotic.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I was like, there's no like emotion in there. Try again. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And he did it again. And he said, and this is so much better, but I'm curious what you think. He said, I was just crazy about you. You were everything I wanted in a partner. There were ups and downs, but the highs were insane and always worth it. I wanted to experience that as long as I could.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Like how much better is that when he leaned into his emotions versus like typing out some sort of first we moved in together. Then I felt it was the next step. You know what I mean?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Totally.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yes.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Well, I think that if you intend to continue seeing someone and ultimately date them, you need to be texting consistently. You need to text at least once a day. And you need to be, as the man in the situation, initiating most of those texts and you shouldn't be afraid to do that if you're getting a good response every time.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
It's very much like just setting the pace for the relationship and you're courting this person and so you should be sending those texts. Um, you should buy this, you know, whatever stage you're dating, you should have like good banter with one another inside jokes. You should not ask for nudes. I think that's a given.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Don't send any unsolicited pictures. Um, but Being, you know, switching up the conversation, sending like different things like a meme or a funny TikTok or, you know, asking her about her day, following up when she says she has a big presentation the next day. How did the presentation go?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
you know, thoughtful texts that really show that you care and make her smile and make her day, but not too much like good morning, beautiful. Good night, angel. You know, it doesn't need to be so like that as much as it's just like bringing that fun conversation into her day.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
No, never. It's so funny because it's never a good idea to send some long-winded paragraph to anyone you're seeing ever. it's just never a good idea. Like you save that stuff for in person always. And that's another texting tip. It's like, keep it fun, keep it light.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Like if you have to call them out for something or if you want to have like a, will you be my girlfriend conversation or I like you type of thing, like do it in person, always in person.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah, love it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
They want to talk about who you are and who you were and who you plan to be in the future. Ooh. And they don't want to talk about why your ex is a bitch and how much money your car costs.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And like drugs that you do.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I've heard that story like happen to someone else. Maybe it's the same guy.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah, I think it's like the modern answer to like the where do you see yourself in five years? Like you should have a grip on that and be able to share that comfortably. Like what your plans are in the next five years without somebody straight up asking what is your plan in the next five years?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
So attractive. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yeah, I don't know, I hate being a lawyer.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
women want something funny women always want to laugh so leading with something that's going to make her laugh is so crucial and women don't want the hey beautiful hey sexy like it's just it's too it sounds like sleazy even if that's not your intention you know
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Even just a simple, like, how does it feel to be the most beautiful person here? Like, that's funnier than, hey, beautiful.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Or like, I feel bad for all these other girls because you're here, you know? Yeah. Like, what should we do about it?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
That's amazing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
That's really funny.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Always. Lean into the silly.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Women want to see like one tiny tidbit of vulnerability. If that's like I'm in therapy or like kind of making something about your life into a funny prompt and women don't want to see gym selfies selfies in general yeah
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
and like pictures of you holding up fish what is it about that men just think that like if they show a picture of them having caught a fish then they're like i'm a man so you can trust that i'm a man now because i can catch a fish and now you can swipe right
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Exactly. And by the way, going back to what women do want to see, again, always humor. Always humor. If I'm cracking up from your dating app profile, I'm saying yes, no matter what you look like.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
There was a line once recently. It was very simple. I saw on a guy's dating profile that I was helping a girl with. And it said, believe it or not, I, which is like a hinge prompt, said, believe it or not, I took an Uber recently that was less than $50. Okay. And I just, it was just like a funny little, and then there was another guy who recently had something.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
He said, all I ask is that you was the prompt. And he said, support Ben and Jen, like Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez. And I just thought it was silly. Like I like when guys aren't afraid to lean into like a pop culture reference.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I love that. I love that personalization.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Yes. Okay. Number one is follow the rules. Meaning, um, we met at Acme has a set of rules for men to follow and for women to follow, um, without getting too into them. I would say just like pay for the date. If you asked her on the date, you know, um, be a gentleman, open doors, uh, Don't ask to go up or invite her over after the first date. You know, all of those kinds of things.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Follow those rules. Get her flowers. And I would say number two, always have the next date set up. Women hate when we're in this sort of limbo where we're like, when are we going to see them again? And are we just going to be pen pals now? Or are they going to ask me out on that other next date, right? Even if they're not free for a week, I still want to have that next date planned.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Number three is initiate all of the things. all of the things and don't be afraid to initiate the, I love you, initiate the let's move in together and initiate the, will you be my wife? If that comes up, you know, initiate all the things. Don't make her feel like she has to corner you to have these conversations. Um, and number four, which I didn't know we were going to have a number four.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Give me a second. Um, number four, I would say, um, Don't be afraid to be persistent, which we talked about a little bit. But don't be afraid to be persistent because we're all going to get rejected in life and It's like if you don't ask, you won't get. And so you never know what's going on in a person's life. Be persistent if you really, really, especially for men.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I feel like men just are luckier in this instance where like they can get away with it. So get away with it. Be persistent. And until you're creeping in on stalker territory, just be persistent. Right.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
And I have to tell you for the persistent guy, when you stop being persistent, she'll miss that. Yeah, she will. I know she will because my friend missed it. And now they're married with two kids.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Totally. Be persistent and self-aware.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Thank you. So we do these live, um, events, some of which are mixers in New York city where, you know, men and women living in New York could meet, Which are really fun. And we do these live shows as well. We have one in LA, SF and Austin. So if you're in any of those places and all of that can be found on our website, we met at Acme.com.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
I honestly dare someone to try it. I would just love to hear how that goes.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women & Make Deep Connections: Dating Influencer Lindsey Metselaar on What Women Want (Encore Episode)
Would love to and would love that. Thank you so much.