Lisa Bilyeu
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard 20 Dec
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So that's the first step. Now, the second step is what do you do to respond? Do you ignore it or do you respond to it? I happen to have a massive empathy in my body. I don't know where it comes from, but every time I see hate, I'm like, wow, what's happened to that person where they're so cruel towards me and they don't know me?
So then it comes the empathy piece where I'm like, wow, how much hate have they had to get in their life to think that it's okay to come on my YouTube page or my Instagram page and be that cruel? Wow, they must have gone through some hard crap for them to say this. So that's the second piece is the empathy. Then the last piece is sometimes I ignore them because I'm like, it won't serve me or them.
Sometimes I will respond. And I used to respond with... This is actually very spiteful, right? Like I would highlight the cruelty that was behind the comment. And then I realized, you know, all that's doing is actually making them feel worse. I'm not actually helping the scenario. So now my response, and I did this two days ago, in fact,
My response is, it probably took you two minutes to write this hateful comment. Can you imagine all the good you could do in the world if you took that two minutes and told someone in your life that you loved them? Could you imagine what a world we would live in if we did that? And within two minutes, they deleted their comment.
Now, I hope that they deleted it because I actually got through to them because that's my goal. I'm not looking to make anyone feel badly. But the truth is that if I can greet that type of negativity with grace, what world could we live in? And that's really now where you're finding me, where how can I greet hate with love? And every time I see the hate, I show love. What would that look like?
And it's an experiment. I don't know. You may find me in a year being like, that experiment failed. Everyone just met me with more hate. But again, I'm going to keep repeating, I want to reach my goal. And so every time I'm just willing to try different strategies, I'm willing to try different techniques in order to get there.
So in a year, if I realize why that didn't do anything, I may try a different technique with the haters. And that will be my next step. But I won't give up because I'm so dedicated to the goal.
Yeah, exactly. And the thing that used to hold me back from reaching my confidence is my emotions. So there's no surprise there. One of the big things that is important is making sure that I'm so aligned with my mission and that I'm always reminded me of what my mission is, that I never allow my emotions to take lead.
Because often we may do things that make us feel good in the moment, but end up derailing us from our actual mission and goal. So instead of saying, my mission is to help people, that's so non-tangible. What does that actually mean? How do you show up every day knowing if you're working towards your mission or not? So I have these two parts of me.
I have the emotional side of my brain and I have the very mathematical science side. So every time I try to get out the emotion, I need to put a mathematical equation in to know that I'm working towards it. Now, what do I mean by that? A mission to me becomes a mathematical somewhat of a sentence, a framework. It needs to have the what, the why, and the who.
This allows me to know exactly where my North Star is. Because sometimes you can get derailed. So know your North Star. Write a mission statement, again, that creates the who, the what, and then the why. So my mission statement is to create content that impacts women, to help them with their mindsets. They never have to rebuild or unwire the negative mindset I've had to. Who? Women.
So if you were to ask me at any point, Lisa, will you come and speak in front of a thousand men? I go, does that fit my mission statement? No, because there isn't a woman in the audience. So while I really want to help men, and I think it's super freaking important, my specific mission of why I show up every day is to help the woman. Okay. The what? Create content. Why?
Because I went to film school. I love creating content. So if you want to know how I'm going to be able to show up every day and fight for my mission, it's doing the thing that I love. Now you can imagine, Lisa, can you come on a fishing trip with me and talk to my daughter, my daughter's cousin or my daughter's friend's cousin?
And I'll be like, all right, well, let me go back to my mission statement. Creating content, this isn't content creation. And I would just break down, okay, it's a woman, but it's not content creation. So actually that isn't where my energy should go. And so I'm able to say no with respect and politeness, but I know that's not my North Star. And then why?
To help women unwire the negative mindset that I've had to do. So now when you ask, when Leap Academy reaches out and says, Lisa, will you come on? Of course, I'm going to say yes, because I look at my mission statement and it fits perfectly. But if you were to ask me to create content that helps women paint their nails...
Again, it fits two, but it doesn't fit that third one, which is actually to help women unwire the negative mindset. So you can see where there's all these different opportunities potentially that could derail me because I love nails. Oh my God, yes, I want to teach women nails. It would derail me from my mission. Oh my God, yes, I really want to help men. It would derail me from my mission.
Yes, I want to help women so much that I'm willing to do a one-on-one for five hours. No, it would derail me from my mission. So that's why the mission statement is so damn important is because every time my emotions get in the way, I just go back to my mission. Does this align? Yes or no. Okay, so hopefully people understand the mission.
Now, the last piece that I'd love to say, though, Ilana, is make sure you check in every single year. I would advise every quarter that your mission actually still aligns with the life you want. Because often I think what we do is we'll go to college, right? We tell our friends. We may actually make a massive change. We may sell our house, move state. and say, this is what I want to do.
And then three years later, I'm freaking miserable. And now I no longer want to do it. But I'm too embarrassed or I'm too ashamed to tell people that now actually I want a different life. So what we end up doing is we somewhat kind of half dip into our mission. We don't actually take it seriously. We're not really committed anymore because we don't actually enjoy it.
And then we wonder why we've never gotten to our goal or to our mission. It's that reason. So every quarter, I ask myself, do I still want to help women? Do I still care to pour my heart and energy into actually helping women? That's something that we should be able to ask ourselves without feeling guilty about. I ask myself, do I still want to be in a partnership with my husband?
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