Lisa Bilyeu
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1,143 appearances
6 recordings
5 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard 20 Dec
Lisa Bilyeu’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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If we can all agree there, then why can we not just say the same as for emotions? If you have a shot of frustration, if you have a shot of anger, if you have a shot of upset or a shot of disrespect, if you have too many shots of that, what's going to happen? You're going to respond in a way that isn't accurate to who you really are. If we can just agree I just then say, when have I had my shots?
And if I've already had my one shot of anger, then you can't make business decisions. If I've had two shots, I better freaking walk away. I don't beat myself up over feeling it and I don't pretend it doesn't exist. In knowing all of that, now I know in moments where I'm bringing emotion to the table and I can't have this discussion. In fact, this just happened like a week ago with my husband.
He said something that triggered me. I realized I was triggered. And I said, look, I know you didn't mean to trigger me right now. I'm having an emotional response. I don't think it's healthy if we keep talking. Let me walk away and I'll come back once I'm emotionally sober. And I actually said those words. It's not like I pretended to say those words. I actually said those words.
And what my husband did, he was like, all right, thank you for being honest. Thank you for just not storming off, being moody, pretending like a lot of us do. Like, no, I'm not upset. What do you mean? Right? It's like, everyone can tell that you're upset. So
That is how I handle emotions in moments where I don't feel good enough, emotional moments where I don't feel like I can really bring my all. I just admit it. I know what to do about it. And then I'm always acting in accordance. And the last piece that I want to make sure everyone hears, I do all of this without shame and guilt.
Yeah. So here's the thing about this. There's going to be two things. There's going to be one thing where people are going to throw hate and it's really not going to bother you. Probably the reason why it won't bother you is because you don't feel it. It's not true to you. So if someone says, oh my God, Lisa, I hate that you're five foot one. It's all right. I hate that I'm 5'1".
I can't do anything about that. I just brush it off. But if someone says, you're so ugly, that hurts and stings in a very different way. Why? Because I've never beaten myself up or felt badly about being short. I very much beaten myself up and felt badly about myself, about my looks. So
When someone comes at you, when it's something that doesn't trigger you, you're going to let it roll off your back. You're not going to think about it. The ones that really do hurt are the ones that actually hit home. And now you have to ask yourself, what are you going to do about it? So there's a couple of things that I did.
So to get started, because that's always the hard thing, how do I actually get started? So Imagine I get bullied for my looks. I get teased. I get called big nose, all of the things. I used to have a unibrow. I never had a boyfriend. If you were the Disney character, right, and you're going to write the most ugly young girl, that was how I felt. So you take that.
Thank you. That's very kind. But look, everyone has a belief system, right? And when you're told over and over and over and over the same thing and it becomes a wound, you really do believe it. So here I am as an adult, not feeling good, not feeling like I'm pretty or anything like that. And so I really wanted to start a podcast because I really wanted to help women.
So I go to start the podcast and I say to my husband, I'm just going to do it on Zoom. I'm going to do it with my friends and I'm just going to do it on Zoom and it's just going to be audio only. Now, my husband, being the person that says we promised we would be with each other, is he called me on my own BS, basically. And he said, hang on a minute. We have a set. We have six cameras.
And we have an entire team that can film this for you. Why on earth would you not get in front of the camera? Now, in that moment, I realized the truth was it was a conflict between my mission and my ego. And I had to be honest about it because my mission is to help women. Do I think that if I could go video and audio, that I'm going to reach more women than just audio? The answer is yes.
Okay, if I know that is true, why do I not want to get on camera? It's my ego. I don't want to be bullied. I don't want to be made fun of. I don't know if I can cope. I don't know if I can handle it, right? All the things that are going through my head. As soon as I just put them out, the reality of what is more important, Lisa, your mission or your ego, then there was nowhere to hide.
Now, I like to do that. I like to not hide anywhere because that's where the reality always comes through. So once I realized that I had to make a decision, I let go of any judgment. That's the second piece. is that if I chose ego, no one's got a right to say that's right or wrong. I have to do what is right for me.
I have to do what makes me feel good when I go to bed at night because no one's around except for me and my thoughts. So if I can't be proud of myself, it doesn't matter what other people think. So just remember, guys, when you're asking yourself these questions, what's more important, it doesn't matter what other people think.
What actually matters is what you think because it's not like it's wrong. for me to choose my ego. It's not wrong. Wrong according to who? So once I was allowed to remove the judgment of it as well, and I was like, oh, which one is actually the thing that you're going to be proud of when you go to bed at night? And I knew. It had to be getting in front of the camera.
It had to be my mission was more important. And so now that just gave me the decision making. The decision was, I now have to get in front of the camera. That doesn't eliminate the fear. It doesn't eliminate the ego taking a dent. Like it doesn't eliminate any of that. But it allowed me to just make the decision. And now I wasn't second guessing myself.
And then that piece then allowed me to start moving forward and get in front of the camera. And that was how I ended up taking the leap is I had zero confidence. I didn't know what I was doing. It wasn't like I thought it was going to work. It wasn't like I had confidence in myself to be a big YouTube channel or anything like that.
It was just I had to stare nakedly at the decisions I was making, take the freaking blinders off and be confident, at least in the decision I was making. Not confident that one's going to succeed or one's a better option. Just confident in the decision I was making for myself and blocking out all the noise and blocking out what other people thought. So now you can imagine I'm on camera.
I see these hate comments in my YouTube channel. Because I've so tied myself to why I get on camera in the first place, you can imagine now when someone throws hate at me, I say, does this matter more than you helping women? Does this bad comment matter more than your mission? And every single time I ask myself the question, I'm like, no, this freaking comment doesn't matter.
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