Lisa Hickey
Appearances
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
deep into the weeds about what is going on with their life today and how we could create tools and stories of other men and connect people and really build a vibrant community that could help change men's lives for the better.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Did say the word angst. There's a lot of that going around.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, well, I'm sad to say we have not solved the angst problem. We have not gotten it to go away completely. In part, just because, you know, things are getting tougher out there. There's the whole rise of technology, which I think has, um, made it harder for men to get those authentic connections, which they seek. Um, there's the pressure of society to like, you know, don't say the wrong thing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
You'll get in trouble. So there's, there's a lot of pressure on men. And I, I think I would, um, I would try to, I would ask men to think to themselves, are the stakes really that high? Like, is this one interaction really gonna be as important as I think it is? Or can I use this as just practicing making better relationships? Can I use every interaction
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
as a way to have fun with people, to connect with people, to really understand how to develop relationships. Helping them be present in the moment, helping them be confident, helping them understand what's great about themselves, what they're bringing to the table.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Also, being able to connect with the other person, like really think about the other person and get outside of their head a little bit.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Well, that thing you just said about, you know, am I worthwhile as a man? That is what we hear over and over, like society put such pressure on men to be this perfect idealized version of a man. And they, you know,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And what we find is that the more men can be their authentic selves to know what is really great about themselves and to understand how to forge these deeper relationships, the better off everyone's going to be. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, I think there's a couple of different ways. So one is by You know, one of the things we say is if you want to develop self-esteem, go out and do something esteemable. So continue to try to like take actions that bring value to your own life. Go out and connect with other men as well as other women. Go out and do something great for your community. Go out and learn a new skill.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Take a class, not to meet women, but because there's something you really want to learn that you want to be excited about. Figure out what your passions are. Figure out what's worked well in the past, even if it's with non-romantic relationships, right? Like, surely there are relationships you have that do work. Maybe it's, you know, guys that you work with. Maybe it's people you play sports with.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Maybe it's your family. What is it about those relationships that work? And I think that helps bring the stakes down. It's like, oh, you're just trying to make a connection with another human being. That's really all it is. So I think those are some of the things that we would tell them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, it's like things that you're excited about that get you up, like that make it you eager to get out of bed. And so, but I think the improv is a great example because it's something you're excited about, but it's also developing skills so that you can, um, you can use those in any conversation, right? Like that's what improv's all about.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
It's like someone will say something and then you have to keep that conversation going. So that's a great way to give skills and also do something that you're excited about.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Oh, wow. I have so many. I'm always excited about the Goodman Project. Sure. I... get up in the morning and I carry my laptop around while I'm like cooking breakfast so that I can like keep working on things.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Multitasker. Yeah. But so for instance, we started, you mentioned the dating newsletter that we start on Substack. So people can sign up for these newsletters. They get three articles a week on dating tips and advice and, Your articles on the dating advice column that you've written for us will be included in those.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
But so Substack is a social media platform. So it gives you practice in talking to people because you have to learn to connect to other people in the community. And those are the types of things that get me really excited. Like what can I do? put on the Substack that people will really connect with, they'll respond to, they'll talk about.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And then that makes me say, oh, this is what's important to men and to people who are looking for dating advice. It just helps give feedback in real time. So I get really excited about that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
You do. So it's sort of a multitasking social media platform. So it has the newsletter, so you can just choose to get the newsletter in your inbox. So you'll get articles once, twice, three times a week from people that you follow and Or you can go on their thing called notes where it's, it's more like a Twitter or Facebook type of thing where you are actually talking and interacting with people.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So much of dating. And just for the record, you should be doing this offline as well as online. But, you know, one advice I give is just to try and connect people everywhere. Like, if you're going to the grocery store, you know, it doesn't matter... who they are, it's not that you're going out and like seeking to pick up women at all these places.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
What you're doing is practicing making an authentic connection. Yeah. with anyone so that you know what it is about yourself that people respond to so that you can figure out what you're interested in, right? Like what is it about people that fascinates you? What do you like most? And then you'll be able to find your ideal partner if you know what it is you're looking for.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
I love that advice.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
But what you said about compliments, one of the articles on our site that has gotten the most views out of any, and I'm talking tens of millions of views, is six types of compliments men would like to hear more often. Because we don't, you know, there is some weird thing about like complimenting men, which people are sometimes afraid of, like giving real, true, authentic compliments.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And so one example that they talk about in this article is, Compliment a man in a way that shows that you believe in him, right? That you have faith that he can do what he says to do. Or compliment him in a way that says they're trustworthy. A compliment doesn't have to be about appearance or success.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
A compliment that really rings true is about some part of that person that you see that others may not. And I feel like that's one of the best types of compliments.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yes, specificity is a big one. I mean, I think that's when people get in trouble with compliments is that they just say something that sounds like anybody could have said that they themselves have said a million times before. So it comes out almost robotic-like.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
But if you're really there in the moment with someone, it's like it's what you said when you met your now girlfriend. It's like you're really focusing on something that got you to respond to them in a unique way. So it's not something that you could say to everyone, right? You wouldn't say that to every girl, every woman that you met. Right.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, that's, that's a great question. I think, um, One thing that comes up a lot is when a man isn't actually listening and they'll interrupt a woman because they're so quick to want to say what they have to say. So it's almost like while the woman's talking, they're in their own head trying to figure out what they're going to say next. And they can't wait to say that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Exactly. So I know that that's one thing. I think that sometimes men take the self-confidence thing to the extreme so they come off as arrogant, as if like, oh, I'm just better than anyone else. So I think it's important to understand that self-confidence has to come
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
from a place deep inside you that isn't that you're better than the other person, but that you're equals, equal but different in a way. You have your own things that are going to be totally unique. Nobody else can bring to the table what you're bringing, but it does not by any means mean you're better than them. And so I feel like that's an important skill to have.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
That's okay because you're you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
I love that. I think that's super attractive. Yeah. I think, I think, In terms of attraction, that's like right up there in the top 10 in terms of what is attractive, I think. And why is that? Well, it's a combination of self-awareness, but also kindness in a way, in some funny way, because you're like really trying to understand the other person and what's unique about them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And then what's unique about you? And when they say sparks fly or there's chemistry, it's like when you both get that about each other that, oh, this person is a little bit different than me, but that's so cool. And yet we're also vibing on some things that are similar. I feel like that's when the sparks really start to fly.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Exactly. It's almost like a little dance. Yeah, I think that's great.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Absolutely. Well, it also gets back to what we were talking about before with like passion, right? Like having something you're passionate about. So if you can get somebody to talk about something that they're passionate about, they're going to talk about that in a really excited way.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And then they're going to remember that conversation as having been really exciting because they were so excited when they were talking about it. Right. You know, it all kind of connects. It's like finding out what the other person is passionate about, getting them to share that with you, then having your enthusiasm rub off on them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And I just feel like that's when conversations get really exciting.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, I really think it depends on the woman. And that's why sort of seeing, you know, being an active listener, understanding like what is exciting to them personally and diving into that. But you had written a column once that had, that talked about how to get away from like the interview type questions and ask questions that were more fun and flirty.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So I think one of them was something like, what's the best thing that happened to you today besides meeting me? I love that because that sort of has everything that we've talked about, right? Yeah. Like, you're trying to really find out something very specific about them, like what makes them happy, what, what their day is like, but then you're also a little self-effacing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
You're also have a little humor in there. You're obviously not, um, being taken seriously by saying besides me, but it comes across as very confident. And so, so I just like love that question.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Three books. They're actually on advertising and some of the best ad campaigns in the past because that's what I did before I got into social media, before I started running the Goodman Project. I was in advertising. Okay. That always helped like trying to think of like clever things to say because if you can sell someone like a shoe, you can talk to them about anything.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, no, I think it's a little of both. I think that things in the pop culture are good because they're shared experiences, right? So if you're talking about a book that a lot of people know, it's not just something you've read, something they've read. It's something everybody has a point of view about. So that's why I do like...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Again, it sort of depends on what the person's into, but whether it's books or movies or news events or just something where you can get a feeling of what their likes are, what their dislikes are, what they find interesting about things that are out there in the culture. I think that's always a good conversation starter.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Yeah, that question kind of broke my heart a little bit. And what you didn't mention was that he also said that it cost $100,000 to get the surgery. And I was thinking, what could you better, you know, surely there are things you could better spend $100,000 on than that. And to go through that pain. So I think that it, I do feel like dating has gotten a little harder. There's a lot of
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
There's a lot of fear. There's a lot of divisiveness in the world right now. There's this feeling of not being good enough or not knowing the rules. What I hear a lot, and I'm sure you hear this too, is like, well, everyone else seems to know all the rules, but somehow I didn't get that instruction manual.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
But yeah, the idea that someone would have to get their legs broken and be in pain and spend all that money because they think that an other two inches of height is the one thing that's going to change, I mean, that just seemed so sad to me. And I really liked your answer, which was you don't need a more towering body. What you need is a more... towering self confidence, like,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
go into a room and just project what your good qualities are you know maybe it's being funny and if you don't know how to be funny that's something you can take an improv you can learn that you know you can learn that it's a lot cheaper and less painful exactly a lot less but you know it's funny because somehow i think that sometimes people think that would be harder like
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
They think that it would actually be easier to have surgery that would be excruciatingly painful than to go out and do something like improv where they might fail, it might embarrass them, it might make them uncomfortable. And it's like, no, those are the types of things you should be doing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Exactly. Yeah, I know. Boy, that That breaks my heart, too, the firefighter who is not brave enough to talk to a woman next to him. You know, I also want to say to men, it's like, as women, we're just humans, too. You know, we're... We really are. So it's okay if you stumble. You know, I think we talked a little bit about, like, sort of that self-awareness or self-effacing nature.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Like, if you make a mistake, just... own up to it. Say, oh my God, that must have sounded like the stupidest thing ever that I just said. And it's okay. Just admit it and move on and don't worry so much about it. Really try to get out of your own head and more into the moment.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So by the way, I think this should be taught in schools. We spend so much time on these hard skills, which are important. Math, science, reading, all of that should be taught. But isn't love like the greatest thing of all? Like, shouldn't we teach people how to actually love and have relationships and have authentic connections? I feel like we don't teach that nearly enough.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So my course would be about, and some of these things that we've already mentioned, but really on how to be there in the moment with somebody. Like, how to have a back and forth that keeps going where you're
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
acknowledge it you're actively listening and then you're acknowledging what they say and then you're adding something else to that and then when that topic winds down you move on to another one but you don't jump from lily pad to lily pad you don't keep going in a bunch of different directions you ask questions that go a little deeper so
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
like that would be the first piece of it is just all about how to communicate in the moment. But then I also think there should be, it should be taught like how to follow up, right? Like sometimes you'll have a great date or you'll have a good interaction with someone, you know, a stranger maybe, and then you let it go because you don't know what to do next.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And again, I feel like this is something you can practice, like how to have ongoing relationships with people that last a long time. So, you know, another piece of advice might be to reach out to someone you haven't talked to in a while, even, even if it's, you know, not someone that you're looking to date, like, just like how, how do you keep relationships going over time?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So how to meet people in the moment, how to keep relationships going over time. And then I would say how to have fun doing that all because it, I, you know, we talked about angst in the beginning. So how do you, how to turn that angst into excitement, like how to use that angst to get past it. You know, maybe it's just being brave or maybe it's just figuring out a way to make it fun.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
But how to turn that angst into excitement. So those would be the three things in my course. I love it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
You know, if you're afraid, like, say you're afraid or make a joke out of it or admit some of your failings or, you know, say that you had a bad day. I feel like, you know, it's like not really about reading minds because you can't.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
actually find out what's going on in someone's mind and the way you do that is by asking questions to getting them to talk like you don't have to read minds you know you can you can actually find out what someone's thinking by having a really great conversation with them so part of that conversation might include being a little vulnerable and
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
putting yourself out there, like letting them see the real you and not being afraid, not having that fear of seeing the real you, minimizing those stakes a little so that it's not so like every sentence isn't so important.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So that advice would be Don't go on a date only thinking of yourself. Like, I feel like I screwed up so many dates because I was just there thinking, okay, okay, what is he thinking about me? Do I look okay? Does he like me? Am I going to say something stupid? Like, I'm having a running conversation in my head with myself. Where does that leave my date?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
So it's like, how could I even have a real authentic conversation with the person sitting across from me when I can't even get out of the conversation that's going on in my own head? So I would definitely tell my younger self not to do that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Thank you. This one is a little mantra that I think to myself like all the time, like before I'm going into any sort of stressful situation or meeting someone new or someone that I really care about. And it is seek to connect, not to impress. Because if you're trying to impress someone, who are you thinking about? You're thinking about you and how great you are. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Like you're not thinking about them. But if you really focus on how do you have that connection with them, I find it to change everything. So any time before I go into any sort of relationship or any meeting someone new, I always say that to myself. Seek to connect, not to impress. I love that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Right, exactly. And yet, that's what we try to do so much, right? We sort of posture and we're like, Oh, yeah, you know, hey, let me show you how rich I am. Or let me show you how smart I am, or how handsome I am, or whatever. And I don't think you need to do any of that. Like, bring your whole self and focus on the connection. Yeah. In front of you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Exactly.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Oh, thank you. This was wonderful. Thanks for having me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Oh, it's an honor to be here. I'm very excited for this
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Thank you. Yeah, I love talking about the origin story of the Good Men Project. So we really started... It was when I had met a venture capitalist by the name of Tom Matlack, and he was putting together a book of men's stories. And at the time, I was doing social media, I had done marketing, advertising, and so he wanted some help promoting the book, getting him on Facebook.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And so he was telling me about the book, and he said, It was all stories of men and a defining moment in their lives. And he said what was so interesting was that when he asked men about a defining moment in their lives, they all said some variation of the same thing, which was, I thought I knew what it meant to be a man. I thought I knew what it meant to be good.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And I realized I didn't know either of them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And I was so blown away by that insight. My first thought was, oh, men have problems too, which of course I should have known. But sometimes we get so inside our heads that nobody else is going through these struggles, and especially men who don't tend to talk about them because of society's pressures to not do that. you know, I helped Tom Matlack launch the book.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
We did the regular book tour, but then at the end of it, we were like, how could we make this even bigger? How can we really spark a conversation about how men's roles are changing today? Like how it just seems like change is happening so fast that we can't keep up with it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
And how can we get inside the angst that men are going through, whether it's for dating or other relationships or parenting or just the pressures of the world today? So that was when we came up with this idea to start this online platform to get men to contribute their stories, to really get