Lisa Hickey
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73 appearances
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1 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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Oh, wow. I have so many. I'm always excited about the Goodman Project. Sure. I... get up in the morning and I carry my laptop around while I'm like cooking breakfast so that I can like keep working on things.
Multitasker. Yeah. But so for instance, we started, you mentioned the dating newsletter that we start on Substack. So people can sign up for these newsletters. They get three articles a week on dating tips and advice and, Your articles on the dating advice column that you've written for us will be included in those.
But so Substack is a social media platform. So it gives you practice in talking to people because you have to learn to connect to other people in the community. And those are the types of things that get me really excited. Like what can I do? put on the Substack that people will really connect with, they'll respond to, they'll talk about.
And then that makes me say, oh, this is what's important to men and to people who are looking for dating advice. It just helps give feedback in real time. So I get really excited about that.
You do. So it's sort of a multitasking social media platform. So it has the newsletter, so you can just choose to get the newsletter in your inbox. So you'll get articles once, twice, three times a week from people that you follow and Or you can go on their thing called notes where it's, it's more like a Twitter or Facebook type of thing where you are actually talking and interacting with people.
So much of dating. And just for the record, you should be doing this offline as well as online. But, you know, one advice I give is just to try and connect people everywhere. Like, if you're going to the grocery store, you know, it doesn't matter... who they are, it's not that you're going out and like seeking to pick up women at all these places.
What you're doing is practicing making an authentic connection. Yeah. with anyone so that you know what it is about yourself that people respond to so that you can figure out what you're interested in, right? Like what is it about people that fascinates you? What do you like most? And then you'll be able to find your ideal partner if you know what it is you're looking for.
I love that advice.
But what you said about compliments, one of the articles on our site that has gotten the most views out of any, and I'm talking tens of millions of views, is six types of compliments men would like to hear more often. Because we don't, you know, there is some weird thing about like complimenting men, which people are sometimes afraid of, like giving real, true, authentic compliments.
And so one example that they talk about in this article is, Compliment a man in a way that shows that you believe in him, right? That you have faith that he can do what he says to do. Or compliment him in a way that says they're trustworthy. A compliment doesn't have to be about appearance or success.
A compliment that really rings true is about some part of that person that you see that others may not. And I feel like that's one of the best types of compliments.
Yes, specificity is a big one. I mean, I think that's when people get in trouble with compliments is that they just say something that sounds like anybody could have said that they themselves have said a million times before. So it comes out almost robotic-like.
But if you're really there in the moment with someone, it's like it's what you said when you met your now girlfriend. It's like you're really focusing on something that got you to respond to them in a unique way. So it's not something that you could say to everyone, right? You wouldn't say that to every girl, every woman that you met. Right.
Yeah, that's, that's a great question. I think, um, One thing that comes up a lot is when a man isn't actually listening and they'll interrupt a woman because they're so quick to want to say what they have to say. So it's almost like while the woman's talking, they're in their own head trying to figure out what they're going to say next. And they can't wait to say that.
Exactly. So I know that that's one thing. I think that sometimes men take the self-confidence thing to the extreme so they come off as arrogant, as if like, oh, I'm just better than anyone else. So I think it's important to understand that self-confidence has to come
from a place deep inside you that isn't that you're better than the other person, but that you're equals, equal but different in a way. You have your own things that are going to be totally unique. Nobody else can bring to the table what you're bringing, but it does not by any means mean you're better than them. And so I feel like that's an important skill to have.
That's okay because you're you.
I love that. I think that's super attractive. Yeah. I think, I think, In terms of attraction, that's like right up there in the top 10 in terms of what is attractive, I think. And why is that? Well, it's a combination of self-awareness, but also kindness in a way, in some funny way, because you're like really trying to understand the other person and what's unique about them.
And then what's unique about you? And when they say sparks fly or there's chemistry, it's like when you both get that about each other that, oh, this person is a little bit different than me, but that's so cool. And yet we're also vibing on some things that are similar. I feel like that's when the sparks really start to fly.
Exactly. It's almost like a little dance. Yeah, I think that's great.
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