Lisa Hickey
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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Absolutely. Well, it also gets back to what we were talking about before with like passion, right? Like having something you're passionate about. So if you can get somebody to talk about something that they're passionate about, they're going to talk about that in a really excited way.
And then they're going to remember that conversation as having been really exciting because they were so excited when they were talking about it. Right. You know, it all kind of connects. It's like finding out what the other person is passionate about, getting them to share that with you, then having your enthusiasm rub off on them.
And I just feel like that's when conversations get really exciting.
Yeah, I really think it depends on the woman. And that's why sort of seeing, you know, being an active listener, understanding like what is exciting to them personally and diving into that. But you had written a column once that had, that talked about how to get away from like the interview type questions and ask questions that were more fun and flirty.
So I think one of them was something like, what's the best thing that happened to you today besides meeting me? I love that because that sort of has everything that we've talked about, right? Yeah. Like, you're trying to really find out something very specific about them, like what makes them happy, what, what their day is like, but then you're also a little self-effacing.
You're also have a little humor in there. You're obviously not, um, being taken seriously by saying besides me, but it comes across as very confident. And so, so I just like love that question.
Three books. They're actually on advertising and some of the best ad campaigns in the past because that's what I did before I got into social media, before I started running the Goodman Project. I was in advertising. Okay. That always helped like trying to think of like clever things to say because if you can sell someone like a shoe, you can talk to them about anything.
Yeah, no, I think it's a little of both. I think that things in the pop culture are good because they're shared experiences, right? So if you're talking about a book that a lot of people know, it's not just something you've read, something they've read. It's something everybody has a point of view about. So that's why I do like...
Again, it sort of depends on what the person's into, but whether it's books or movies or news events or just something where you can get a feeling of what their likes are, what their dislikes are, what they find interesting about things that are out there in the culture. I think that's always a good conversation starter.
Yeah, that question kind of broke my heart a little bit. And what you didn't mention was that he also said that it cost $100,000 to get the surgery. And I was thinking, what could you better, you know, surely there are things you could better spend $100,000 on than that. And to go through that pain. So I think that it, I do feel like dating has gotten a little harder. There's a lot of
There's a lot of fear. There's a lot of divisiveness in the world right now. There's this feeling of not being good enough or not knowing the rules. What I hear a lot, and I'm sure you hear this too, is like, well, everyone else seems to know all the rules, but somehow I didn't get that instruction manual.
But yeah, the idea that someone would have to get their legs broken and be in pain and spend all that money because they think that an other two inches of height is the one thing that's going to change, I mean, that just seemed so sad to me. And I really liked your answer, which was you don't need a more towering body. What you need is a more... towering self confidence, like,
go into a room and just project what your good qualities are you know maybe it's being funny and if you don't know how to be funny that's something you can take an improv you can learn that you know you can learn that it's a lot cheaper and less painful exactly a lot less but you know it's funny because somehow i think that sometimes people think that would be harder like
They think that it would actually be easier to have surgery that would be excruciatingly painful than to go out and do something like improv where they might fail, it might embarrass them, it might make them uncomfortable. And it's like, no, those are the types of things you should be doing.
Exactly. Yeah, I know. Boy, that That breaks my heart, too, the firefighter who is not brave enough to talk to a woman next to him. You know, I also want to say to men, it's like, as women, we're just humans, too. You know, we're... We really are. So it's okay if you stumble. You know, I think we talked a little bit about, like, sort of that self-awareness or self-effacing nature.
Like, if you make a mistake, just... own up to it. Say, oh my God, that must have sounded like the stupidest thing ever that I just said. And it's okay. Just admit it and move on and don't worry so much about it. Really try to get out of your own head and more into the moment.
So by the way, I think this should be taught in schools. We spend so much time on these hard skills, which are important. Math, science, reading, all of that should be taught. But isn't love like the greatest thing of all? Like, shouldn't we teach people how to actually love and have relationships and have authentic connections? I feel like we don't teach that nearly enough.
So my course would be about, and some of these things that we've already mentioned, but really on how to be there in the moment with somebody. Like, how to have a back and forth that keeps going where you're
acknowledge it you're actively listening and then you're acknowledging what they say and then you're adding something else to that and then when that topic winds down you move on to another one but you don't jump from lily pad to lily pad you don't keep going in a bunch of different directions you ask questions that go a little deeper so
like that would be the first piece of it is just all about how to communicate in the moment. But then I also think there should be, it should be taught like how to follow up, right? Like sometimes you'll have a great date or you'll have a good interaction with someone, you know, a stranger maybe, and then you let it go because you don't know what to do next.
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