Lisa Hickey
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
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And again, I feel like this is something you can practice, like how to have ongoing relationships with people that last a long time. So, you know, another piece of advice might be to reach out to someone you haven't talked to in a while, even, even if it's, you know, not someone that you're looking to date, like, just like how, how do you keep relationships going over time?
So how to meet people in the moment, how to keep relationships going over time. And then I would say how to have fun doing that all because it, I, you know, we talked about angst in the beginning. So how do you, how to turn that angst into excitement, like how to use that angst to get past it. You know, maybe it's just being brave or maybe it's just figuring out a way to make it fun.
But how to turn that angst into excitement. So those would be the three things in my course. I love it.
You know, if you're afraid, like, say you're afraid or make a joke out of it or admit some of your failings or, you know, say that you had a bad day. I feel like, you know, it's like not really about reading minds because you can't.
actually find out what's going on in someone's mind and the way you do that is by asking questions to getting them to talk like you don't have to read minds you know you can you can actually find out what someone's thinking by having a really great conversation with them so part of that conversation might include being a little vulnerable and
putting yourself out there, like letting them see the real you and not being afraid, not having that fear of seeing the real you, minimizing those stakes a little so that it's not so like every sentence isn't so important.
So that advice would be Don't go on a date only thinking of yourself. Like, I feel like I screwed up so many dates because I was just there thinking, okay, okay, what is he thinking about me? Do I look okay? Does he like me? Am I going to say something stupid? Like, I'm having a running conversation in my head with myself. Where does that leave my date?
So it's like, how could I even have a real authentic conversation with the person sitting across from me when I can't even get out of the conversation that's going on in my own head? So I would definitely tell my younger self not to do that.
Thank you. This one is a little mantra that I think to myself like all the time, like before I'm going into any sort of stressful situation or meeting someone new or someone that I really care about. And it is seek to connect, not to impress. Because if you're trying to impress someone, who are you thinking about? You're thinking about you and how great you are. Yeah.
Like you're not thinking about them. But if you really focus on how do you have that connection with them, I find it to change everything. So any time before I go into any sort of relationship or any meeting someone new, I always say that to myself. Seek to connect, not to impress. I love that.
Right, exactly. And yet, that's what we try to do so much, right? We sort of posture and we're like, Oh, yeah, you know, hey, let me show you how rich I am. Or let me show you how smart I am, or how handsome I am, or whatever. And I don't think you need to do any of that. Like, bring your whole self and focus on the connection. Yeah. In front of you.
Exactly.
Oh, thank you. This was wonderful. Thanks for having me.
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