Maggie Jackson

And another component of uncertainty that's really important and then also maybe a little unsettling is that it involves pausing.

It does involve slowing down.

When a group is collaborating and someone offers a note of dissent, that is the best possible path to better collaboration.

But it slows the group down because it's keeping them from rushing to judgment.

It involves deeper discussions, more intense complexity of discussions.

and they're just hemming and hawing yes and i think that partially speaks to the trade-offs with uncertainty that it does uh you know demand a certain amount of investment in time

Just as anything that gets you past just the first knee jerk answer does.

I mean, maybe we can reframe it.

And if you're watching your friend having a little bit of decision, it might come from part of their life, they're in a new diet or what have you.

So we can see that uncertainty with compassion.

We can also see it as a chance to listen as they debate various possibilities, even if it's just on a restaurant menu and they might find something there that you hadn't seen.

Because, you know, maybe the person who decides first and most quickly at the restaurant is the person who always gets the same dish every time.

Well, that's actually not contending with uncertainty.

Yes, exactly.

And I would say that helicopter parenting is a search for uncertainty.

that's in vain.

Basically, parents are using incredible surveillance techniques, technology-enabled surveillance techniques to constantly keep tabs on their kids.

And we can debate all day about whether the world is unsafe or not safe.

And I'm not saying that

that this doesn't have a place in modern life.