Mariel Cigarra

So in addition to that question above about when you felt free, also ask yourself, what stands in the way of you feeling free now?

Is your environment unsafe?

Is your job constantly in jeopardy?

Is your partner always critical of you?

That is all legitimate.

And that's takeaway five.

Find your moments.

Look, I get it.

You may feel like you barely have time in the day to sit down, let alone play.

But playtime doesn't have to mean spending hours every day making sandcastles.

Though, I'm kind of into that idea.

You can inject play throughout the day.

Whitney Bay was at a restaurant with her parents this one time.

And my rule is, at a restaurant, everybody puts away their phones.

She taught them how to play this game where the first person says who they are, the second person says where they are, and the third person says what they're doing.

And then maybe the third person is like, okay, we're farmers at Walmart and we are shopping for bikinis.

And you do a little scene.

You can also find moments of play by just letting yourself be playful, even for 30 seconds.

Pet a puppy on the street, with permission.

Pick up a pine cone at the park and ask your friend to name it.