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Michelle Chalfant

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399 total appearances

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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

if you didn't have a belief around whatever she's making you feel, she wouldn't bother you. I'm telling you right now, she wouldn't bother you. And so I worked with this girl up on stage and she said, What came out of it was this nurse was making her feel unseen and discounted.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

if you didn't have a belief around whatever she's making you feel, she wouldn't bother you. I'm telling you right now, she wouldn't bother you. And so I worked with this girl up on stage and she said, What came out of it was this nurse was making her feel unseen and discounted.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

if you didn't have a belief around whatever she's making you feel, she wouldn't bother you. I'm telling you right now, she wouldn't bother you. And so I worked with this girl up on stage and she said, What came out of it was this nurse was making her feel unseen and discounted.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And it went back to how her stepmother made her feel when her father married her stepmother when she was six or seven years old. And she sat up on stage and she was sobbing. Because I said, how does this woman... It took... I'm not kidding you, Heather. It took... five or 10 minutes to get to the root of it. I mean, this stuff doesn't take long. We just aren't used to going inside and looking.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And it went back to how her stepmother made her feel when her father married her stepmother when she was six or seven years old. And she sat up on stage and she was sobbing. Because I said, how does this woman... It took... I'm not kidding you, Heather. It took... five or 10 minutes to get to the root of it. I mean, this stuff doesn't take long. We just aren't used to going inside and looking.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And it went back to how her stepmother made her feel when her father married her stepmother when she was six or seven years old. And she sat up on stage and she was sobbing. Because I said, how does this woman... It took... I'm not kidding you, Heather. It took... five or 10 minutes to get to the root of it. I mean, this stuff doesn't take long. We just aren't used to going inside and looking.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And I said, you know, what is coming up? When you think about this nurse, this charge nurse, how does it make you feel? Well, I angry. She's a bitch. I said, go under it, go under it, go under it, go under it. And we can hit the root. I'm discounted. I'm not seen. I said, who does that make you feel like? Or who does that make you think of? And she said, my stepmother. I said, feel that.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And I said, you know, what is coming up? When you think about this nurse, this charge nurse, how does it make you feel? Well, I angry. She's a bitch. I said, go under it, go under it, go under it, go under it. And we can hit the root. I'm discounted. I'm not seen. I said, who does that make you feel like? Or who does that make you think of? And she said, my stepmother. I said, feel that.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And I said, you know, what is coming up? When you think about this nurse, this charge nurse, how does it make you feel? Well, I angry. She's a bitch. I said, go under it, go under it, go under it, go under it. And we can hit the root. I'm discounted. I'm not seen. I said, who does that make you feel like? Or who does that make you think of? And she said, my stepmother. I said, feel that.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

She felt that she was sobbing, sobbing, sobbing, sobbing. And she says, I'm discounted. Nobody loves me. My father does not defend me. My stepmother is like a monster. She's horrible. I said, OK, so is it true that in the body you are today? And I don't remember. She might have been in her 40s or something like that. She was she was probably in her 40s.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

She felt that she was sobbing, sobbing, sobbing, sobbing. And she says, I'm discounted. Nobody loves me. My father does not defend me. My stepmother is like a monster. She's horrible. I said, OK, so is it true that in the body you are today? And I don't remember. She might have been in her 40s or something like that. She was she was probably in her 40s.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

She felt that she was sobbing, sobbing, sobbing, sobbing. And she says, I'm discounted. Nobody loves me. My father does not defend me. My stepmother is like a monster. She's horrible. I said, OK, so is it true that in the body you are today? And I don't remember. She might have been in her 40s or something like that. She was she was probably in her 40s.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And she said, I said, is it true that you are still discounted? And this is how you do a trigger. You go through and you ask yourself today, in the year, whatever year it is today, is this still true that you are, whatever you're feeling, unseen, unknown, unlovable, all the things. And she says, well, no, I'm not discounted, you know. I'm married. My husband loves me. My kids love me.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And she said, I said, is it true that you are still discounted? And this is how you do a trigger. You go through and you ask yourself today, in the year, whatever year it is today, is this still true that you are, whatever you're feeling, unseen, unknown, unlovable, all the things. And she says, well, no, I'm not discounted, you know. I'm married. My husband loves me. My kids love me.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And she said, I said, is it true that you are still discounted? And this is how you do a trigger. You go through and you ask yourself today, in the year, whatever year it is today, is this still true that you are, whatever you're feeling, unseen, unknown, unlovable, all the things. And she says, well, no, I'm not discounted, you know. I'm married. My husband loves me. My kids love me.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And her best friend was there with her. And she goes, and my best friend loves me. And I turned to her best friend. I go, does she, do you love her? She says, I adore her. I said, okay. I said, now feel that to the woman on stage. I said, feel that emotion. What does that feel like? She goes, no, I'm not discounted anymore. I said, okay, what are you instead? I said, feel the answer.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And her best friend was there with her. And she goes, and my best friend loves me. And I turned to her best friend. I go, does she, do you love her? She says, I adore her. I said, okay. I said, now feel that to the woman on stage. I said, feel that emotion. What does that feel like? She goes, no, I'm not discounted anymore. I said, okay, what are you instead? I said, feel the answer.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

And her best friend was there with her. And she goes, and my best friend loves me. And I turned to her best friend. I go, does she, do you love her? She says, I adore her. I said, okay. I said, now feel that to the woman on stage. I said, feel that emotion. What does that feel like? She goes, no, I'm not discounted anymore. I said, okay, what are you instead? I said, feel the answer.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

Don't think it, feel it. She said, I'm really accepted by so many people. Really, I have a lot of people that love me. I said, feel that. When you feel something versus thinking it, it anchors a new belief in your system. Oh my God, Heather, I can still see this lady. This was like a five-week course I was teaching. She leaves, she feels fine.

Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
The Emotional Intelligence You Were Never Taught with Michelle Chalfant

Don't think it, feel it. She said, I'm really accepted by so many people. Really, I have a lot of people that love me. I said, feel that. When you feel something versus thinking it, it anchors a new belief in your system. Oh my God, Heather, I can still see this lady. This was like a five-week course I was teaching. She leaves, she feels fine.