Molly Graham

what if that wasn't true right what if i was athletic what if i believed i was athletic what would i do differently what if i believed i was creative what would i do differently you know what if i believed i was like i've just self-defined as someone that doesn't take risks what if i took a moment to say what if that's not me what if i am something different and even just asking that question can really lead to a different conversation about what the best thing for you might be you know

Yeah, totally.

And, you know, I think that that idea of like just asking what's underneath it.

And also I think sometimes just...

What would you have to believe for that to not be true?

You know, for me, like my achiever self got me great things in life.

Like it charged for years and it created all this, you know, quote unquote success professionally.

And I'm like so grateful for that.

And then I think I just realized it was chasing something that was going to end up being toxic, you know?

And that's, I think, very complicated and confusing, which is like for a while, some of these things really serve you.

And they really are good forces.

Or culture is rewarding you.

Yeah, totally.

They can be productive.

But at some point, they become unhealthy.

And you get the signals of unhealthy, like whatever it is for every different person, right?

Burnout or...

depression or anxiety, that's just not that's showing you that this voice or person has been driving for is no longer really serving you.

And then I think asking questions, sort of challenging your fundamental assumptions, what literally my coach did was make you sit down and have a conversation with that voice, like define where it came from.

which, by the way, can also be really confusing.