Ned Johnson
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601 appearances
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first heard May 2019
last heard Sep 2024
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But really, when we talk about resilience, really is stress tolerance, the ability to bounce back.
And so many of the things that we as as parents do to want to help our kids actually work against their being able to handle things themselves.
Um and so we just felt like there was there was more to say.
Um and so that's why we wrote the book.
Well well for me, what one of the things that we stumbled on is that
Parents, and we'll we'll talk about this.
Parents, when um when their kids are are having a hard time, we we we kind of fall into doing one of two things.
We either try to try to fix things, try to solve the situation that's causing our kids distress, because we don't like to see our kids, you know, struggle, or you know, we we try to sue them relentlessly to the degree that they don't learn to soothe themselves.
And one of the things that occurred to us is it's the very parents who love their kids the most.
Most who have sensitive kids, but who are also, as parents, sensitive to their own kids.
And so we wanted to really acknowledge that so many of the things we air quotes, you know, do wrong with kids are really just born out of the fact that we love them enormously.
We want to do everything we can to help.
And so this book for me was really written in mind for all the for all these loving parents who are having kids who sometimes
Having a harder time than they wish.
And we that we want to help parents help their kids, but do it in a way that's very sensitive and respectful and honors the fact that that parents, even though when they get in air quotes making mistakes, they're doing it out of love.
And so we we wanted this to be very conversational, as you say, Debbie, but also really, really gentle about the fact that that all the things we do for our kids are, you know, because we love them.
Yeah, and I I would add to that, um, when our kids are stressed out, you know, we as as you know affectionate caregivers and parents, it'll we will be stressed out as well.
And one of the things that that I from my perspective, and we talk about in the book, the the two kind of traps that we fall into are either trying to solve the problem, trying to fix the problem for kids, or trying to say, you know, it's it's okay, you know, everybody gets their heart broken.
You know, three years from now you won't care.
You know, every everybody, blah, blah, blah.
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